Mum guilt

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DD is 4 and in reception. Since she has started I feel I get this guilty feeling all the time! I cant keep up with all the PTA things.. but I dont want her to miss out because I'm not on the Ball.. she has had to miss a few days due to her asthma and the current covid climate! She literally coughs constantly in the winter. So I've had to get her a couple tests here and there which she hates. This morning she was late because of me faffing :( my second DD is 1 month old so maybe I'm frazzled. I just dont want her to miss out because of me and I want her to know that I think about her and I know what's going on! I just feel guilty like I'm constantly doing the wrong thing :(

That's bring a mum constant guilt and worry, it's a sign you care and want the best for her. I felt the guilt when I had my second but you need to be kind to yourself. Try to talk to yourself with the same care and empathy you would use for your adult child or family member

1. Dont tell them i told you this but you dont really need to keep up with the PTA all that much. They'll contact you if they need you.

1. My daughter has severe asthma. I cant count how many days shes missed due to hospitalisations and bad asthma days. Her health takes precedence. The school should understand. When my dd has been in hosp theyve sent work for her to do on thr off chance shes well enough to do it but there isnt any resentment if she doesnt.

1. The test is horribly uncomfortable but very necessary. As long as you explain whats going on, she'll be ok.

1. When you have a newborn and a 4 year old everything goes to pot. Mine are 10 and 5 and when my youngest was born I was lucky if I went out in matching shoes.

If youre concerned about being late, lay everything out ready the night before. Prep prep prep but you will soon fall into a comfortable new rhythm and it wont be such a mad dash every morning. You got this!

1. Guilt. Guilt is something that every mum feels when you have a 2nd, 3rd, child. When my 2nd was born id make pancakes with my eldest every sunday, just us together. It doesnt take that long. Its fun time with mummy and you get a yummy treat at the end of it too. My eldest is now talking about going to culinary college because she desperately wants to be a chef now so Im super glad we did this.

Anyway, in short, you are doing wonderfully well. You arent making mistakes. You will get used to life with 2 children. It DOES get easier. Please dont beat yourself up for feeling this way. Its normal!