Bigger age gaps- siblings

[sazzle1685]

Hi everyone first post on here! Just looking for positive stories of bigger age gaps between siblings. I have a little boy of 3.5 and unfortunately just recently had a miscarriage at 12+6 weeks. I tried for 6 months to get pregnant and will now need to start trying again. I'm presuming it's probably going to take the same amount of time (possibly longer as I am 35!) to conceive again. Just getting a little bit worried about having a big age gap 4-5 years plus and would like to hear other peoples experiences! We never wanted a small age gap but would have liked 3-4 years really although I know it can't be planned like that! Most of my friends have got age gaps between 18 months and 4.5 years. Thank you! x

We have a 5 year age gap between ours, largely planned that way, though it would have been more like 4.5 (but I had a miscarriage as well). It's been great. I can't imagine how people manage with a small age gap. I had lovely time with both of them (as eldest was in school when youngest was born and I was on mat leave). It also meant I could be around more for her first year/two of primary school. It's a bit more challenging at the ages they are now (8 & 3) as they are both in very independent phases and eldest is less tolerant of her brother, but he's not quite old enough to be flexible and patient. So they do bicker quite a bit. But I imagine it's probably still easier than having them close together. They do love each other though and eldest is very good at playing with him (when she wants to be) and is very helpful.

@JudgeRindersMinder thank you x

Thanks everyone you are making me feel much better. I can definitely see lots of pros to a bigger gap and obviously there will be cons too as there probably is between smaller gaps. I didn't get along with my brother who is 2.5 years younger and get on best with my sister who is 12 years younger!