Mum guilt

[Holalisha]

Hello. Anyone else having mum guilt with not being able to go anywhere with baby? My baby is only 5 months old and not being able to go to a group or anywhere is driving nuts!!

I don't know if this will help but I actively chose NOT to enrol DD in any baby groups.

The groups benefit the mums really so although you're missing out it definitely isn't something for you to feel guilty about.

I loved the first few months just going out for walks and on a nice day I'd take DD out of the pram and sit wittering on about whatever trees/buildings/animals were in view.

Number one thing you can do for baby after the obvious necessities of comfort, well fed, warm, dry, enough sleep is to interact and share whatever of the world is available to us at that moment.

Unfortunately I always find something to have mum guilt about - I think it goes with the parenting territory!

Thank you for your reply!! I totally get where your coming from which has made me feel much better thank you.

I think getting him out his pram is a good idea. When I go for a walk I let him sit in there but have never actually sat down anywhere and got him out. This is my first baby and like everyone in completely winging it. X

I liked baby groups but they were more for me than DD. Everything is stimulating at that age - DD loved going to the supermarket, must have been all the lights! If you've got a sling that can be handy so they look round a bit more.

Yes I do have a sling. I defintely feel better. Hopefully things go back to normal so I can take him swimming!!

My baby is 4 months and I’ve been very careful and not gone to any groups. I have a friend who’s baby is 5 months and she’s also been very careful throughout the virus so prior to lockdown we met and sang songs with our babies. I feel this is safer than attending groups. Also I have still seen my parents throughout the virus as they also have been being careful. I feel, from what I understand, this is enough socialisation at this age. I think the main thing is you talking to your baby and spending time interacting with them which I’m sure you’re doing. No need to feel guilty the fact you’re considering this shows you’re doing a great job

Yes I totally agree. As long as I'm carrying on what I'm doing I'll be fine. It's just so hard not feeling guilty ☹️ I'm going to take him out on the sling rather than his pram I think I think. He seems happy and that's all that matters