My ds has a best friend who he has been friends with for about a year now. They were at preschool together and have gone into school, into the same class together. They are pretty inseparable according to his teacher, although they do both have the ability to play with other children.
Anyway for the past few weeks I've suspected that this best friend's mum, who I thought was a friend of mine, doesn't like my ds. She's told him off a few times and seems to have been a bit short with him, and I don't really know why. My ds is a lovely boy, as is this other boy, they don't fight, of course they have the odd scrap over what game to play etc but generally they're always happy to see one another.
It's all kind of come to a head today because it's this little boy's birthday. I was helping out in their class this morning and we sang happy birthday to him and then teacher asked if he was having a special birthday tea. He said yes, and that he had friends coming over, and then proceeded to name those friends, and my ds is not one of them .
I am fairly sure it's the mum who has not invited my ds, because I am certain that this boy would have.
But now I'm really not sure what I should do. I do of course understand that it's peoples' perogative who they invite to their house, and if this little boy wasn't my ds' absolute best friend I wouldn't bat an eyelid.
So should I encourage my ds away from this child and try to get him to make a new best friend? Even though it's not the kids that have fallen out, I can't help thinking that this mum is going to try to end this friendship anyway.
I'm really thrown here, as have never been in the situation where engineering of friendships has been deemed necessary.
I am very for my ds and that this mother seems to have taken a disllike to my child with no good reason and that it's going to affect his friendship.
what would you do?