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DD 'don't want to pee my pants at night' ....

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my2weegirls · 18/10/2007 12:46

DD1 (2.9yr) has been toilet trained for 5 months - she did great took to it almost immediately. DD2 arrived 10weeks ago. SInce then DD1's sleep has been a bit of problem and we've been putting it down to attention seeking. She's been waking up at odd hours and shouting and screaming everything imaginable - hungry, thirsty, need to pee etc. after several weeks of this we decided that we would ignore this behaviour and hide under the pilllow to shut out the noise It then takes her ages to calm down and go back to sleep (sometimes about an hour)but she does it.

I'm now wondering if i've got it wrong and the waking is because she doesn't want to pee in her nappy at night. this morning she woke up an hour after shouting and screaming for me saying that said she needed to pee straight away - when sitting on toilet she said 'mummy i don't want to pee my pants at night'.

selfishly at the moment i'd prefer that she did use her nappy so that we are not constantly up during the night. if she was a good sleeper then i'd think about lifting her late at night for a pee - but she doesn't go back easily....

can anyone give me some advice or do i just need to accept that after being up feeding DD2, DD1 will wake wanting to pee then take an hour to go back to sleep....

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ProfessorGrammaticus · 18/10/2007 12:51

potty by her bed?

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my2weegirls · 18/10/2007 12:59

thanks - i'll try that..... though she won't use a potty anymore during the day - she wanted to use the toilet 3 days after potty training and hasn't used one since. she won't even use a training seat or let anyone lift her onto or off the toilet. she's quite independent

we've drummed into her that she doesn't come out of her room when it's dark and mum or dad aren't there.

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BabiesEverywhere · 22/10/2007 10:27

Why can't she take herself to the toilet at night ?
(Genuine question as my baby is 14 months I have no ides of the abilities of 2.9 year old)

Children definately wake to wee at night, just as adults do. I have always taken my DD to the potty/toilet at night if she wakes up and 99% of the time she'll wee.

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katylou25 · 22/10/2007 10:57

Can't you just let her go to the toilet at night? I'm planning to do this with ds when he 's dry at night - make sure stair gate is shut so she won't go downstairs and then she'll just do the same as in the day - won't she??? Plus if she had the independence to do that it may not be an issue with her being up in the night she might just get up, wee and go back to sleep. [Hopeful icon!]

fishie · 22/10/2007 11:21

sorry no advice for you my2weegirls but a bump plus my question.

i have put ds (2.5) back into pullups at night because he was weeing if he had pyjama bottoms on, not if naked. at least half the time he wakes up dry asking for nappy to be removed so he can do a wee. don't want to make him be nappied if he can wake up and do own wees but don't want to push him if not ready.

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my2weegirls · 22/10/2007 13:17

i suppose we don't really want her wandering about and playing during the night - and potential for accidental mischief e.g. leaving taps running after washing hands. but maybe we will need to consider letting her go herself and as you say give her, her independence - though because she was never the best sleeper we always told her that coming out of bed and her room is not a good idea so it may seem a bit confusing for her...

the past few nights she's slept through once (from 7.45pm till 6.30am with a dry nappy ) and twice shouted on me to go to the toilet and then she's gone straight back to sleep which has been a bonus!

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fishie · 23/10/2007 09:05

i wouldn't be keen on ds going to bathroom alone in the night either, as you say much potential for mischief/disaster. have you got a separate loo? that would be better.

ds up at 5.30 requesting nappy removal for a wee. dry nappy. oh i don't know what to do.

colditz · 23/10/2007 09:09

Crikey, wouldn't want a 2 year old alone in the bathroom - potty near the bed is the way forward!

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my2weegirls · 23/10/2007 11:29

well at midnight last night she somehow managed to sneek into our bedroom and stand right next to me (snoring my head off) and shout in my ear 'mum i need to pee'. i just about pee'd my pants i got such a fright . she did her pee - went straight back to bed and to sleep then woke up at 6.15. if she goes straight back to sleep then great! it's the nights where we have a screaming match that are so hard especially with an 11 weeks old. so i think we are going to have to live with getting up with her if she needs to go. we've also put an alarm clock in her room and told her that if it starts with a 6 (and drew a 6 on a bit of paper for her to check against) then it is morning and it is ok for her to get up if she wants but if it is anything else then she has to go back to sleep.

Colditz - she won't use a potty as she says 'that's for babies'

fishie - we don't have a separate loo - at one point in the stress of it all i was considering swapping rooms so that she could have the en-suite (must have been the sleep deprivation).

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