Feel like I’m failing my daughter.

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I’m a single mum(by choice) ivf with sperm donor.
She will be 5 in April and has started reception, everything is going beautifully, she is progressing well, and in the words of her teacher making beautiful relationships with children and staff.
However everyone, and I mean everyone has a daddy and siblings, and she is asking a LOT why she doesn’t have them.
We also live in a much smaller house, I’m hoping to move to somewhere bigger as we need more space and I want a garden so I can’t even offer her a pet as we’d be renting. I just feel a bit glum about it tonight, I really want her to be happy.

Maybe you could look for books to read to her about non traditional families? I've heard of one called Just The Way We Are which is meant to be good.

Also, I know this isn't what you're asking, but please tell her the truth if you haven't already!

There is a lovely book called 'What is a family' which has lots and lots of kinds of families in

"I really want her to be happy"

Isnt she happy?

Welp, you can start out with the best intentions in a traditional marriage and still end up a single mum with a lone child who constantly asks for siblings thats just the way the cookie crumbles :/

I’ve told her the truth, have done from early, and yes she seems happy but there’s always this child has a baby, can we have a baby? Actually she hasn’t asked about a daddy in a while just mentions other people’s! It can’t be changed guess I’m just feeling a little maudlin.
She adores my mum and they have a brilliant relationship.

I think this raises a really interesting topic. When you read articles about women who have conceived in the way you have, A lot of them are written when the child is a baby or toddler and doesn't know any different. I think it is when they get to school and see daddy's at pick up or when other children talk about their families that I imagine it becomes more obvious.
You sound like a loving a caring mummy and clearly really wanted her.
No family set up is ideal. Or you can start out with great intentions and things happen which you can't control. I would read her books appropriate to her age about her situation, acknowledge any feelings she might have about not having a daddy (as that it really important) and reassure her about the loving family she does have in you and your Mum.

Seek out some only children (after lockdown) for her to be friends with OP.

Her asking questions does not mean she's unhappy.

Have a look at "The Family Book" by Todd Parr. We read it to my nearly 4 year old, she has two mummies :-)

She loves telling us about her friends at school and what their families are like.

Four year olds do ask a lot of questions, it’s how they make sense of the world around them. My youngest is four and asks me all sorts of things every day!

It sounds like you have been open with her which is brilliant. There are some fantastic books about families, I recommend The Big Book of Families.

In my daughters' class (7 year olds now) there are around 5 or 6 one child families and they all seem to have hooked up together, are there actually none in her class? Or when she is older and does Rainbows/dancing/whatever she is sure to meet some there.
I think many children would love to have the undivided attention of a parent, I doubt she isn't happy. And don't underestimate the fighting that goes on with siblings, when single children come round to our house I sense that they are appalled and are glad of the peace at home, I have also heard that directly from older single children.
Don't feel bad. Do as much as you can with other families and your family if she enjoys the hubbub and then relish your time alone together. Once she starts making friends at school and restrictions lift she can invite them over and you may well become friendly with the parents.