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Help with 3 year olds behaviour

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Santatime1 · 16/11/2020 16:37

Hi,

I need help with my 3 year old sons behaviour. He was 3 in September and I have a 2 year old daughter too. My DH and I split just before lockdown so it’s been a lot of change for the family.

My son has always been a ‘high needs’ child. Very unsettled as a baby with reflux and always been very demanding.

He is on the go all day every day. He runs and runs everywhere. He has so much energy which is so amazing to see but hard to contain at times too.

He cannot ever hear the word no, I have tried doing time outs but he just throws himself around the place crying and wailing until his time is up and does not seem to take it on board or make any difference to his behaviour.

He constantly throws things at me and his sister. He is very rough with her mostly in a playful way but sometimes he can be aggressive towards her and go out of his way to hurt her. He can be like this with other children too although he also loves to socialise.

His speech and understanding is very good so there’s no concerns that way.

I’m just really getting worn out. I have to constantly distract him with something to get him to do anything (food, tv, toys). He does not play with his toys much but loves being outdoors on his bike. I know everyone will say just take him out all day but being on my own with them both is hard as he tends to run away, go through any open gate/ door etc.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated

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Bettyboop82 · 16/11/2020 20:55

Hi, you poor thing, this sounds exhausting! What’s his diet like? Have you tried cutting out sweets or anything with colourings in? My daughter’s behaviour falls off a cliff whenever she goes near chocolate! Have you tried using any visual aids to reinforce what you’re asking him to do? Sticker charts etc?

Jenala · 16/11/2020 21:29

I cannot recommend ahaparenting.com enough. I am completing her course at the moment and our day to day life is changing just a staggering amount (I have two super high energy sons age 3 and 5, the oldest is extremely stubborn and difficult). She has tons of free resources on the website though and a couple of book. It comes across a bit gentle to some people but it get results in ways time outs etc just don't.

cameocat · 16/11/2020 22:05

I haD to give my DS (now older) a choice so he still feels in control. It also avoids too many 'NO's' in a day which you can save for when you really need t. It also turns it into something more positive.

Eg 'you either get down from there and we can stay and play in the park or we will have to straight home. You decide'.

Good luck OP

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