Advice about dads new girlfriend

[Ruacai89]

Hi all, ao me and my ex have been split about 8 months now. He now has a new girlfriend which I'm not jealous of because I dont want him back and I'm actually happy for him. The thing is though he's playing happy families with our 2 children. Which he never made the effort when we were together. Hes just had the kids for 4 days and she's all the kids will talk about. Im glad she's there because he's quite the lazy dad but I cant help hurting knowing they are all so happy together. Like its really cutting me deep. Does anyone have any advice on how to make it easier? Please.

I dont have much advice myself but i can understand how you must feel. Everybody wants a happy family together, and it must be so frustrating to see them having this while you are a single unit. Especially if he never made the effort with you, it can hurt to see things working out the way you wish they did for yourselves. The only thing i can think of is perhaps focus on the children and be glad they're happy, and that she's not some wicked partner or anything. I'm sure over time as the 'new' feeling of it all fades they will talk about her less. Wish there was more I could say, i do sympathise with you and i have the words in my head but just cant put them down properly!

I would just focus on how positive this is for your children. Why does it have to be playing happy families? Why can’t he have grown up and realised he needs to be a better dad?