MIL dummy guilt

[Vmama]

My MIL keeps making me feel gilty for not giving my son a dummy. He's 8 months now and has never had one but since he's started teething he's taken to sucking his fingers.
He can go off to sleep by himself and soothes himself back to sleep if he wakes. He used to battle his naps but he's grown out of that and is great now.

The thing is she keeps saying things like 'I don't understand why you won't give him a comforter/dummy. I can't bear to see him so distressed.'

I thought it would be the opposite and am actually really proud of him for not needing a dummy but am I depriving him of something he could benefit from? Opinions please!

If you don't want him to have a dummy it's not really her business. I have a similar problem as dh had to have braces because he sucked his thumb and pushed his teeth wonky so MIL keeps saying my dd should have a dummy. I'm slightly luckier in that she just will not have one. She's not the slightest bit interested so I could say to MIL well give her one then knowing that she wouldn't have it. Personally I'd tell her to bog off

tell her that he isn't distressed

or you could tell her that you have tried to give him one and he doesn't want it if it'll shut her upp

if it was me, i would just say something like ' i really dont want to have to give him a dummy, just to take it off him again, i think that would cause him more distress in the long run'
stick to your guns, he is your child.

I like it! I guess I was just having an attack of the guilts yesterday wondering if I was depriving my child of comfort but he gets plenty of comfort from me when he needs it -like today when he's ill and has spent all day sleeping on my chest

thanks all