Child access court outcomes

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Has anybody here been to court over child access? If so, what was the outcome? My ex & I do not get along but there is no concerns over our son. My ex currently has him every other weekend & half of all school holidays. He is taking me to court for an extra week night sleep on top of this as he feels that only seeing him every 2 weeks is too long to wait. I don’t want to allow any more access as I feel it would disrupt his routine. Advice please? Thanks!

Yeah, as others have said, I think you'll lose this one and, if he doesn't have full weekends yet (ie Friday night to Monday morning), he could even get more if it asks for it. Time to be reasonable and keep the relationship you have sweet

What does/do the son(s) think?

If I were him I'd go for a full 50-50.
The DC is half his. You do understand that don't you? Fathers can love their children and the child benefit from being with the dad, just as much - or as little - as the mum.

You children have every right to spend as much time with their father as their mother. Imagine how much you will miss your children when they go ever OTHER week now imagine how much their dad misses then only seeing them every other week. It is not unreasonable to want to see them at least once a week.

Reverse. Stepmom as the op.

Are there any reasons your children wouldn’t adapt to that extra night? The vast majority of children would adapt after a few weeks (maybe even just a couple). I think you aren’t giving kids enough credit in how they can adapt and I think you need to put yourself in his position and imagine if you only saw your DC every other week. It’s becoming more prevalent for parents to share 50:50 so I think you’ll find that the courts aren’t going to agree that an extra night in the week is disruptive

Going to court would be a bad move on your part unless you have missed out some very important information. He only lives 15 minutes away, their lives will not be disrupted

I know it's not been the answer you want- but I'm sorry- they have a parent who loves them and wants to spend time with them- juts like you do. This seems to be more your issue than the kids. 4 nights a month is nothing- how would you feel if that was you? He can take them to school easily from where he lives, and if this went to court- on the basis of what you've said so far- he would be given more time, as they deserve to have time with both parent's regularly

If this is a reverse then yes your DH should Perdue this through the court. Unless there is specific evidence that the mother can bring to prove this is not in the child's best interests. If there is a 'skeleton in the closet' then get a lawyer - but if he's already got EOW that would be unusual.
Otherwise your DH should self represent.

If not a reverse then I would save yourself time , money and anxiety and simply agree. As he will get what he asks for and possibly more.

@pickledplumjam

Reverse. Stepmom as the op.

You’re probably right. OP has disappeared too...

@pickledplumjam if it is and I got sucked in to answer I- I blame being tired. I despise giving anytime or effort to sodding reverses.

And reverses (if this is) always smack of manipulation of people and facts. It also changes my view as I see it as sneaky and trying to get people on side- which then usually completely changes my opinion- if that's the case here.

I never understood the point of reverses. They are so transparent