Am overreacting?

[LizzieLou84]

Maybe it’s just me overreacting but what are your opinions of people (other half’s mother) taking pictures of your child from your social media account and adding them to there’s without asking first?

Like I said I might just be overreacting but this is really starting to bug me.

Well, social media does have a 'share' function for a reason.
I don't think it is unreasonable for a Grandparent to want to share with their friends a lovely nap of their grandchild that is already on social media.
If you want to keep them priate, I would put them in a WhatsApp group and ask people to respect that you don't want them shared.
Or start a 'Family only' Facebook group and remind them of the title.
Or, you could just say "I have my Facebook privacy setting locked down really tightly, so am comfortable saring with my 17 friends, but I don't want dc's photo shared with the 482 friends you have, when I don't know who they are, so can you please not share them without asking me first.

As to if you are overreacting - I don't know how you have reacted, so can't say.

Blimey - I wish there were an 'Edit' feature for when I type too fast.
Hope you can read what I meant to say

Yes. You are over reacting. I am assuming if u put it on social media its not a private moment. Can not think of any situation where a photo would be fine for a mother to post but not a grandmother. Life's to short. Dont look for trouble with a proud granny. You will be the grandmother and mil one day......chances are u will want to post a nice pic of your grandchild (one that has been given the green light for social media from mum) how could that possibly annoy u.

The rule of applying it to how you would feel if it was your own mother helps to ascertain whether you're being unreasonable. So you'll have your answer if you answer yourself honestly. My MIL used to do certain things that'd make me grind my teeth or irk me (she's a very odd woman anyway. Very jealous and possessive and likes to dominate her sons) but I still had to pick rightful battles and reserve colouring everything because of her character. So for example she'd give my kids sweets when I didn't used to when they were too young. (despite her intentions that may or may not have been there) I'd think 'would I be furious if my mum had done this?' then I'd think 'no I wouldn't be furious. I'd think well it's one day a week and she's doing me a favour so let her have her granny fun.' abc I then had to rethink how I approached my thoughts over my MIL. We have got a pretty good relationship now despite her strange character flaws!

@BackforGood i couldnt have put that better myself. I echo what u said 🤣 xx

I think there are quite a lot of MNers that could do with reading your wise words @Savourysenorita

SIL does this and it drives me insane. Next time she does it I'm mentioning it.