After 5 years I just don't know what to do anymore so hoping for some advice.
Myself and ex partner split 5 years ago in the may, we have 2 children who are now 7 and 11.
Long story will try to explain best I can
Wasnt the best break up after years of what I see as mental and verbal abuse and him being agressive I found the strength to end it.
He found a houseshare and was having the kids every weekend as I worked I then changed jobs and he had them every other weekend. He met someone and she fell pregnant by the end of the sept (same yr as we split) i met someone in the dec and kept it slow after a year he moved in and is an amazing stepdad to my children and they adore him.
Ex and gf lost the baby at 21 weeks I understand they have been through it. Then she fell pregnant again in the June and that child is now around 3 I think amd she had another a month ago. After a while of living with her parents they got 2 bed place, he has our 2 every other Sat and Sun 10-6 (before he met her he would have them fri evening-sun. He refuses to have them overnight says there's no room i said they shouldn't of taken the house knowing it wouldn't suit . He won't even have them on a sofa bed etc. He says his hours are 10-6 (didn't realise parenting had hours) he cancels at drop of a hat if he has a headache, hasn't got car as gf taken it (I said she knows when he has his kids she should plan better) I've told him to get train (2 stops) he won't pay out. I dont drive. Over the years I have had to stop the dc from seeing him as they were getting upset going he literally sits them in front of telly his excuses for not doing anything range from his boy is ill it isn't fair leaving gf when boy is playing up etc. Not even a trip to park amd when he does he acts like he has just done an amazing thing. He takes them one week a yr to see family his mum and dad adore the dc when his parents come to visit is the only time he comes out of the 10-6 rule he has in place. Lockdown he refused point blank to see them as she was pregnant he wouldn't even come and talk to them from a distance. I said he needs to call once a week . This happens rarely. Last yr when visiting family him and his gf had blazing row in front of my dc and said she wanted nothing to do with his fxxkimg kids. His family saw everything and got the girls out of the situation. I told him this wasn't on. There is always drama its a very weird relationship I know if I ask him for anything outside the 10-6 he ignores my texts or says no. Bit of background i went from a weekend job where he had to have them 9.30-6.30 I am now in a job Monday to fri within an hour of him realising I no longer worked weekends he texted me saying I. Taking the mic its going back to 10-6 i wanted it to stay 9.30-6.30 as I felt the kids deserved this time with him. I've tried meeting with him to discuss and he says no, daughters when he cancels says surprise surprise. So I am now looking at mediation and plan on giving him the paperwork when I next see him or I plan on stopping contact for sake of my eldests mental health (through 1st lockdown she struggled with him refusing)
Any advice.