Large gap between children

[Lexylizard]

Hello . I had my first son at 19, now I'm expecting my second son in a few weeks at the age of 43! There will be a 24 year gap!!!!! I just wondered if there was anyone else out there with a big gap between children? Even though my second son will have an older brother, he will still be like an only child!

My dad has a 21 year age gap between him and his youngest sibling and they are only a few years older than me.

In many ways my dad is a mix of big brother and father figure to the youngest. When we were little they would come for days out with us and even came on holiday with us too once or twice. We have a blend of generations. I have cousins that are closer in age to my niece. Its meant there has always been children around the family.

My DH and his brother are 11 years apart. DH says he felt like an only child growing up as his brother was off at uni etc., but now they have a great brotherly relationship!

My little sister is 15 years younger than me. My little brother is 12 year younger. My older brother is 4 years older than me.

I have virtually no contact with my older brother. He has never even met any of my children. Didn't bother coming to my wedding. To be honest I think he's a dickhead.

Little brother I get on alright with, he makes the effort for family events but we don't have much in common. Send each other birthday cards, hug when we see each other etc.

Little sister and I get on like a house on fire. Love her to bits and am in regular contact with her. It was hard when she was still a child because I wanted a normal sister relationship but obviously I had a responsibility to be in more of a parental role, since I was so much older. But once she hit her late teens and was more independent we started to get on very well.

Basically what I'm saying is the age gap between your kids is no garuntee of anything. I "should" be closest to my older brother as we were close enough in age to grow up together, but the opposite is true. Every family is different.

I have a 21 year age gap between my 2DC . It’s a different sibling relationship as they were/are essentially only children.

6 years in the relationship between them is beautiful.

As a mom I know that No one can be all things to all people or even to one person. They get from each other something very different to that which they get from us as parents and also quite possibly different to another other relationship they will have.

Congratulations

I will say it’s been a a crazy mad tiring and wonderful experience for me thus far

My DP is 13 younger than his sister, his mum had him unexpectedly at 38. They got on well when he was younger but as soon as he grew up, we had our family etc she didn't like it as she was always one to control his life like she was his mother. They hardly talk now tbh.
He gets on really well with his other sister who is 10 years older than him

@Taja123

I have a 21 year age gap between my 2DC . It’s a different sibling relationship as they were/are essentially only children.

6 years in the relationship between them is beautiful.

As a mom I know that No one can be all things to all people or even to one person. They get from each other something very different to that which they get from us as parents and also quite possibly different to another other relationship they will have.

Congratulations

I will say it’s been a a crazy mad tiring and wonderful experience for me thus far

That's really nice to hear. I'm hoping they'll have that sort of relationship. I asked my son if he was excited about being an older brother and he was a bit indifferent, saying he's too old now! But I think he's realising that he's in a nice situation, where he can appreciate having a sibling in a different way. .