Are all fathers/partners like this?

[carrieivie]

Hi guys, iv been struggling with my partner since my DD was born 21months ago, to keep it short his parenting consists of him playing xbox and she watches tv, im the opposite i rather keep her stimulated, soft plays, park everyday and when we are home i play with her ( dont get me wrong im not perfect sometimes i need a break or have to cook or clean so if she wont settle i do put some tv on )

As a partner he just sits on xbox then after hes bored or finished he asks me for sex !! He does not make any effort with my family, he goes to work, Plays xbox, baths her and does the bedtime routine which takes 45mins - 1hr but thats it i find this is the only positive contribution to our family life i get from him is that 1hr a day and money :-/

Has anybody had this experience with their partners ??

Im seriously considering/day dreaming about being a single mum atm.

@Lazypuppy

He doesn't sound great at all, not sure why you are with him?

You are at 2 opposite ends of the spectrum, but sounds like you are doing too much with your LO - you don't need to entertain them 24/7 or you'll end up qith a child you can't play by themself.

How do you know OP doesn’t encourage independent play? She says nothing about being a 24/7 entertainer, don’t make things up.

@AnneLovesGilbert OP literally said she wants to keep her busy, and when they are home plays with her, and says using TV means she's not perfect...
im the opposite i rather keep her stimulated, soft plays, park everyday and when we are home i play with her ( dont get me wrong im not perfect sometimes i need a break or have to cook or clean so if she wont settle i do put some tv on )

Maybe read the OP before accusing me of making things up 👍🏻

This is awful - no it is definitely not normal.
Was he so lazy before you had DD? I'm struggling to understand why you are with him and had a baby with him.

No way, that is NOT right at all.

My partner gave up his hobby, sold his motorbike prior to the birth of our first. (I didn’t ask him to, he just said he would rather spend time with us)

Now he invests evenings, weekends, annual leave completely to our kids.
Football 3 evenings a week, and matches at weekend, the kids hobby means travel so he funds all of that and takes them off for the weekend (pre Covid) for their hobbies, bought a wee caravan so they can be comfortable while away, reads, homework, days out, he dedicates every spare moment with them.

He also works 2 jobs but never lets his work interfere with his time with our children.
For example he will arrange to leave work early for school pickup or parents evening, he never ever misses.
He has an evening wfh job but always does homework for an hour before he starts work, will stop to put youngest to bed, read with him.

In fact, I just wonder what the hell I contribute to this parenting lark!! DH definitely dies the lions share.
I am very very lucky but then I chose well and I chose carefully my partner. I’m very intolerant of bullshit and have a second sense when working people out, no way would I have settled with an arsehole because they usually show themselves way before any decisions are made re commitment, kids etc.
He would have been gone long before kids came along I’m afraid.

As a partner he just sits on xbox then after hes bored or finished he asks me for sex

Is he a teenager?!