Help!! How do I stop swearing....??

[Notyummy]

Dd is 15 months old and is very verbal and copies everything we say. Dh and I have both said that we must stop swearing because we do not wnat her using bad language. He still very occasionally swears, but I am struggling and probably swear in front of her at least once a day (generally a f**k), muttered usually, but Dh says it s very clear and gets really annoyed with me. Has anyone got any strategies to stop myself doing this?? It is becoming a really sore issue between us, as he has started shouting at me for doing it. Sometimes I get so angry, particularly when I am rushing around getting everything sorted and I make a cock-up, or do something stupid like stub my toe, that it just comes out.I realise part of it is self-control/will power...I am not stupid, and I am an articulate person, but I am struggling to just completely stop. Does anyone know about NLP...would that help??

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I think you just need a strategy in your mind about what you'll do instead of swear when you get stressed or annoyed. Just something you think you might remember in the heat of the moment. Either another word or something to do...ds loves "OH, RATS!"

Maybe you could say something like that?

It's just a habit at the moment so it wouldn't take that long I wouldn't think, to get into the habit of replacing it with another word.

if you do get angry, is it possible to look a little deeper at it and check that your dp is helping you enough, not leaving too much stuff to you which is why you're 'rushing around getting everything sorted'? Also organise things differently - I find mornings HATEFUL so I force my reluctant self to do as much preparation the night before, so I'm not rushing around in the morning. Would that help?

I try to use substitute words = fxxk becomes fiddlesticks

I'm still struggling with bollox and shite

and looking for viable subtitutes. My DS is 13 months and looks at me very thoughtfully when I use either of these words. He's sure to repeat them.

I was worried like you, did a google search and read a wikihow article on how to stop swearing. Its ok advice, worth a quick read. But I agree with other posters here - you mainly just need to substitute the word.
(Im still swearing by the way and v upset about it, but havent yet tried word replacement, will make bigger effort soon!)

www.wikihow.com/Stop-Swearing

Maybe you need a dose of utter embarrassment before you get shocked into stopping! My ds said NOTHING but "Bugger, bugger, bugger" for one whole day once, everywhere we went! Thank goodness I didn't say anything worse in front of him

I just swear in front of them all the time. My parents are from Dublin and never stopped swearing in front of us. We knew not to do it ourselves, and it wasn;t really until I had children myself that I felt the need to say FFS about 20 times a day..hmmm...is there a link?!
Anyway, I really wouldn't worry about it all. My siblings and I have all done well, have happy friendships and relationships, good careers, and all that jazz, and we are excellent at swearing. I'd tell your DH to f off. Just for the hell of it!

Thanks for the replies everyone. I know it is trivia compared to some peoples probelms, but it is causing some grief ion the ny house just now.

i've been substituting too- flipping, blooming etc. I still say bugger and bloody though, don't see them as a problem.

i got DS a money box too, and when i do slip up, i apologise to him and put money in it for his trust fund. I've managed to stop swearing so much now i'm running out of change!

Wear an elastic band around your wrist and every time you swear (I am assuming you realise you have sworn right away) twang the band. Aversion therapy!

I know that sounds daft, but I'm not taking the P, honest . Give it a try.