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8 yr old son seems to prefer his dad...

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Nomoreporridge · 08/11/2020 19:36

I divorced a few years ago from my son’s dad and he sees him regularly.

I’m feeling upset because my son seems to prefer spending time with his dad- always wants to call him when he is with me ( but never seems to call me when with his dad).

I think it’s possible that I’m just being a bit jealous, so try to contain it. But it breaks my heart because his dad aims to make co-parenting as difficult as possible. He refuses to pay any childcare, or after school activities and often makes things as difficult as possible. He does it to get at me, which is ridiculous because the main person who suffers is his own son.

He was also emotionally abusive to me ( and continues to be so). I worry that my son is being turned against me. Even if he isn’t doing this, it feels so unfair that my son prefers someone who has treated him so poorly.

Looking for other people’s experience of this- how do you deal with this?

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peakygal · 08/11/2020 19:42

Sounds like my DD now 12 and her DF...He completely turned my quite, kind loving DD into an angry, uncaring person..He told her so many lies about me and about my DH who is deceased. This all started about 2 years ago, no explanation as to why he suddenly developed an issue with me. The straw the broke the camels back was finding out he smoked weed around her and had her on deals so I stopped her seeing him. That was a year ago in August. I did absolutely everything to try fix it but he wouldn't meet me in the middle. So now Im dealing with her on my own with no emotional or financial support from her DF. SS said I did the right thing as it is a safe guarding issue and unless he attempts to co parent there isnt a thing I can do only hope and pray that she will go back to being the person she used to be now he no longer controls her mind. OP its a battle but don't give up. Kids eventually realise

Nomoreporridge · 09/11/2020 00:04

Thank you. I hope so. You definitely did the right thing for your daughter and she’ll realise that eventually.

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ladybird69 · 09/11/2020 00:35

I had this my kids chose to live with Disney day. Until they moved in and he basically moved out and in with his girlfriend to leave them to live in the middle of nowhere and bring themselves up! He turned them against me my family and friends. So my kids had no support whatsoever. Some men are pure evil

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ladybird69 · 09/11/2020 02:04

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Nomoreporridge · 10/11/2020 22:18

I’m so sorry to hear that ladybird69. Have your kids realised what he did?

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