Coping with whining

[perfectpanda]

Anyone got any good tips/ strategies/ books ? I was awful at coping with it when my older kids were small...there is a big age gap, I'm a lot older and perimenopausal. I'm so depressed to be dealing so badly with it again. I just can't bear my 3 year olds whining. I know I need to ignore / distract / act like an adult. But I get so irritable and angry. I know its normal 3 year old behaviour. But I need to get better. Anyone found anything helps them care less about it? Other than ear plugs....

Ah, whining. My best line is "sorry I can't hear whining, I can only hear normal speaking". "How do we say that in a nice voice?". Generally I find pretending not to understand and not care are good strategies!

Argh I have felt like this today OP. My DS is nearly 5 and is going through a trickier phase after a relatively easy time - just started school so I'm putting it down to that.

Everything seems such a battle and met with complaining! EVERYTHING. Following for tips.

I too say I don't understand whining, use your words. I did this from day one though as I can't stand my whiney niece

Same as above, ask my little one to use her words as I can't understand whining it seems to help, good luck op xx

My 8 yr old twins have ASD and are neurodevelopmentally about 3. We are havw been in the toddler phase including whining for 5 years... I have ear plugs... they have it little bits that open so I can hear conversation and crisis but it blocks out some of the whine and bicker. Its probably wrong but im exhausted as they dont sleep, I have sensory processing dysfunction myself and I am on a knife edge. They keep me for losing it over trivia...

That sounds tough @didplanthis.

I know I got some looks in the park today with my intolerant parenting. And my older two don't hold back in telling me I am too harsh. But I react as soon as he starts. I just wish I could find a way of zoning out and not reacting.