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How to deal with dc being excluded by friends?

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adviceneeded24 · 04/11/2020 20:00

Dc has been friends with another child (A) since nursery and have been in the same class throughout. A and Dc have had a good relationship and they also have lots of other friends. In the last year another child (B) has entered their friendship group and has become very close to A which is fine but B is now apparently trying to exclude dc from the group saying that A has been friends with him a long time and he is now bored of him, saying dc can't play games with them as the game is only for a certain amount of people etc and generally being unkind. A and the others are also joining in and trying to get away from dc at playtime or barely tolerating him when he plays with them. I have told dc that they are not very good friends if they behave in this way and to find some new friends but he says that they are his friends and he wants to play with them. Why are kids are so cruel?! What advice can I give him? I've tried inviting other children around for play dates to try and give him options. I'm also fairly good friends with both mums of A and B but wouldn't want to involve them.

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SocialBees · 04/11/2020 20:05

I would mention this to the teacher. No need to make a big fuss about it but the teacher will be able to keep an eye on things.

My DD was in this kind of situation in primary school - it's not uncommon, sadly. She did eventually start playing with other children in the class (after a long time of hoping that her old friend would change her mind).

ChaosMoon · 04/11/2020 21:07

Oh your poor DC. This is where bullying starts. Please speak to the school. If they're any good, they will have strategies to help with this.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 04/11/2020 21:16

This kind of thing makes me so sad. I have no advice as my DS is too young for this just yet, but my heart goes out to him.

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charlottemont · 05/11/2020 05:58

Oh I am so sorry. How old is your son? I think the above suggestions to talk to the school and ask the teacher to just keep an eye on the situation are good ones.

I know that you want to keep the parents out of it, but is there any way that you could say that your DC seems to be having a hard time recently (without saying anything about their DC or placing any blame) and see how the conversation plays out/if they know anything about the situation? I'm so sorry for your DC, though, that's a horrible feeling.

lollipoprainbow · 05/11/2020 06:48

I had exactly the same thing with my dd. She moved up to primary school with her friend and a few weeks later a new girl started and became good friends with this girl to the extent that they would run off and leave my dd by herself In the playground (heartbreaking). The teacher tried to help but to no avail. I ended up changing schools for my dd as we weren't happy with other aspects of the school either there are still friendship issues at the new one ! It's neverending good luck !!

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