2 year old upset and sad at nursery

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My 2 year old has all of a sudden disliking going to nursery.

He used to absolutely love it, getting excited at the car park or in the morning getting ready.

But he’s now moved to the over 2s room, gets upset, cries hysterically at the car park. He doesn’t even want to go in the car at the weekend as he thinks we might be taking him to nursery.

I don’t know what to do, I’m so sad and upset by this. I can’t afford to take him out as we both work.

They have a web cam system, he’s the only one who’s not playing, sat or stood around, crying etc.

I don’t know what happened! The new room has new workers etc so I don’t know whether he hasn’t liked the change? It’s been 4 weeks and all the other kids are playing and laughing and engaging judging from the web cam.

He loved his other room and the workers. Everyone used to compliment him saying he’s so confident and only one who gets his hand dirty and tries everything.

I don’t know what’s happened? What can I do?

What are the staff saying to you? Is there someone sitting with him and engaging and encouraging him?

Have to speak to the nursery and address the issue with them- did anyone he plays with transition at the same time; that can help

They tell me he’s upset, some days he’s okay. I can see someone sat with him when he’s sat on his own or he’s sat on someone’s lap. They cuddle him when he’s crying etc.

But I don’t know because he doesn’t know then he doesn’t care?

Some of his friends went too but they got split it because of bubbles and corona which I don’t think has helped either but I can force the nursery to change that?

*doesn’t know them
*can’t force them

You could enquire with the nursery about whether he could move into a Bubble with someone he likes to play with.
How’s his communication?- my LO only really spoke full sentences etc from 2.5.
If he’s really struggling maybe he moved across too soon and you could look to move him back over once he’s able to communicate better?

This happened with my dd going into preschool age and she never settled in the new room even though her friends were there and she had been really happy before. I think she didn't bond with the staff in the new room and it was a loud busy room with no free access to outside as it was upstairs. The staff just acted like they didn't understand her or what they could do and we lost the trust that it was the best nursery for her. We swapped her to a new nursery with an experienced kind keyworker and lots of outside space and equipment and she has thrived there since and made new friends too.

My DD was upset when she moved to the toddler room last month (she was 21 months). They tried her down there a few times and there were lots of tears and they realised she needed a bit of extra support in the transition.

First they asked us to go in with her for a couple of hours every day for a week and be super enthusiastic about it all. Once we’d done that they put a key worker from her old room down with her for a day or two, would have been for longer if she’d needed it.

She absolutely loves it now. Can you have a chat with the manager, say you’re concerned and ask what extra strategies they can put in place to make sure he settles? It’s one thing crying at drop off but I wouldn’t be happy seeing him unhappy throughout the day.