Dd starts nursery tomorrow

[M2AL]

Hi everyone. Dd is 8 months and has her settling in session tomorrow at a nursery. She’s never been away from us only with my mum . I’ve been told that they will collect Her at the door tomorrow. It’s filling me with so much anxiety that I can’t even settle her. I understand the COVID rules I’m just so anxious she’s going to scream the whole time and get herself so worked up. How can I get rid of this anxiety.
Thanks in advance

it's rubbish! I'm so sorry you're feeling so anxious about it. I was much the same.
For what it's worth my DS2 had never met his CM before his settling session. We spent 5 mins together outside and she took him in. Not a peep from him. He was happy as Larry when I collected him 😂
I was half annoyed after all the worry I'd been through.
I hope you have a similar experience. But if not please don't worry. She'll soon settle and you'll feel better soon too. Good luck!

DD went to nursery at a similar age over the summer - i handed her over at the doorstop, she waved at me and went off with the nice lady, i got her back an hour later covered in sand pit sand happy as a pig in clover. She loves it there.

@iano I’m
Hoping it’s the same. I used to work in a nursery so I understand she may cry . But parents were allowed to be at settling in sessions pre Covid .It’s the thought of not even being able to sit with her while she has a nosey around and then leave her that’s upsetting me I think.

If you’re calm, baby will be calm. Don’t get emotional and give her tons of hugs etc. Just say see you in a little while!

You can get a bit teary when they take her in

She’ll be absolutely fine. It’s much worse for you!

@TeddyIsaHe I didn’t realise how much different it would be being a mum who’s taking their baby to nursery compared to being on the other side and the nursery practitioner who comforts the child ! I know she will be fine there’s so many what ifs going through my head , made worse by Covid and not even being able to step in the door xx

That is hard on you (hopefully she will take it in her stride). Each nursery seems to be doing slightly different things - when I did settling in sessions in September I was allowed to stay for about half an hour.

@M2AL All the best for today 💐Please let us know how you get on, our 9 month old boy has his next week and would be interested to know how it went, sending hugs 🥰xx

Hi everyone just picked dd up. I dropped her off the lady said hello
And dd wouldn’t even look at her and began crying. I’ve just picked her up and they have told me she’s been fine. IMHO I think they are telling me this to make me feel better which I totally understand . Dd wasn’t crying when I picked her up but you could tell she had been as her eyelashes were damp . She tried the snack their and dd was fine while I was talking to the lady(the same one she cried at when she went in). @Dexy2020 dd has another settle next week

@M2AL

Hi everyone. Dd is 8 months and has her settling in session tomorrow at a nursery. She’s never been away from us only with my mum . I’ve been told that they will collect Her at the door tomorrow. It’s filling me with so much anxiety that I can’t even settle her. I understand the COVID rules I’m just so anxious she’s going to scream the whole time and get herself so worked up. How can I get rid of this anxiety. Thanks in advance

DS started at 10 months. It took 2 weeks for him to settle but as he was eating and drinking it wasn’t too concerning. He cried on and off (and at the door) and planted himself onto his key worker’s lap. It’s only been a month now and the change in him is fantastic. He gets excited about going and has his own routine there. So don’t worry too much it’ll be ok.

Sounds pretty good OP. She was bound to cry but it's good that she wasn't very distressed when you collected her

@iano I received a few pictures of her there and she wasn’t crying in the pictures either :)

Perfect! Well done her and you!

This will be me in early January, I am so worried & hate the fact that I have to hand her over at the door & can’t do settling sessions with her. I’m praying she settles well. X