Covid Babies

[Sunisshining12]

Do you think there will be many? Perhaps a low birth rate this year? Smaller school classes?

Would anyone actually actively TTC during the pandemic? Intrigued to hear others views.

@Whatnametochoosenow - are you actually kidding me? This offends you, wow. I see it as a very legit & valid discussion given the times we are living it, and actually find it very very interesting to hear both sides of the story. I’m actually on the fence FYI & debating what to do for the best myself! My friend had very strong views against the idea hence my reason for asking for others opinions here. If you don’t like the discussion then don’t join it!

I'm pregnant with my second but was accidental and also thought I couldn't face a termination due to the depressive state we are already in, I didn't want to make myself even more depressed. Being pregnant now has it's advantages as no one is doing anything so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.

@Sunisshining12 but isn’t @Whatnametochoosenow entitled to say it offends her if that is indeed her opinion? As you say yourself you posted to get other people’s opinions. You can’t tell people to go away if you don’t like their opinions.

[quote Whatnametochoosenow]@Sunisshining12 for the record imho you are very small minded and obviously struggle pitying yourself in other people's shoes. I don't know what you set out to achieve by starting your this thread apart from stirring the pot. Everyone has their reasons which none are of your business. If you can't empathise why start a thread? I take it you've never experienced difficulties with conception as from the small minded comments you've made indicate. Imho you lack a huge amount of empathy and are quite rude.[/quote]
Said a bit strongly but yes i agree with this.

All these people who say it’s risky to be pregnant / have a baby / give birth right now it’s utterly insensitive to those of us who got pregnant before lockdown started. What on earth are we meant to do then? We didn’t have a choice and had to crack on with it. And I echo the poster who said that giving birth a week in to lockdown was incredibly stressful.

At a time when everyone was telling you not to go near a hospital or you’d likely die from this disease was exactly the time we had to go in to hospital.

And my baby isn’t a Covid baby FFS. She hasn’t had Covid and was born during a pandemic but that doesn’t define her. Stirring the pot is exactly what this thread is.

My baby was born beginning of May. He’s been a delight.
We have missed out on various things like everyone, and family haven’t met him yet ( we are overseas).
I wouldn’t say it’s been a disaster though. He has no idea what’s happening right now, so is just your typical baby, he’s happy.

@ShirleyPhallus - how is it insensitive to people who got pregnant before lockdown started? We are discussing people who are choosing to TTC NOW. Who are actively getting pregnant now knowing the situation we are in. Not pre Covid. And yes it’s called a discussion. Some of the posters on here who disagree - what exactly are you disagreeing with? Seens as every single poster has voiced their own opinion/experience. I never told anyone to go away if you re read. I said if you feel so utterly disgusted by the thread then move on. I DONT EVEN HAVE AN OPINION - I AM ON THE FENCE AS TO WHAT TO DO.

I said I THOUGHT the majority of people would be putting it on hold, ya know because of the national pandemic? And said I was INTERESTED to hear others opinions for myself. I am SURPRISED that actually people are not letting covid get in the way. I neither agree or disagree. I want to ttc myself but don’t know what to do.

What the hell would I gain from starting a random thread with strangers to ‘stir the pot’. What fucking pot? Jesus.

I got pregnant with my second in August. If I'd have waited for covid to disappear before ttc i think I'd have been waiting a long time - far more than I'd have been prepared to.

@Letsallscreamatthesistene

I wonder how many of those who became FTMs during lockdown will go on to have a second. Its a strong no from me 😂

Very much this.

DH and I were toying with the idea of #2... And then covid happened. And then lockdown happened. A couple spending weeks at home = lots of contraception in our case no babies here!

My friend’s daughter is a midwife, I saw her the other day and she had done 18 booking in appointments the day before.

Mine was born a week before lockdown

It’s insensitive because the implication is that it would be unwise to have a baby in the current climate and those who got pregnant before the virus started but gave birth during it would be thinking “well shit, what about me? What am I meant to do”

But with all those CAPS on youd be right at home writing for take a break or something

@ShirleyPhallus - there is no implication that it’s unwise to ttc now. It’s more of the worry/risks of ttc now knowing a lot more about covid & the associated risks of Covid. People that have had babies during lockdown are not in the same boat as people TTC now, as they of course would have had no idea what was going to happen to the world last year.

So imo it’s something to take into consideration. That’s not me saying it’s a good or bad idea. I don’t know myself what to do. I discussed with a friend who was very anti ttc. As I’ve already explained. And I am genuinely surprised people are not letting covid get in the way. Again; I am surprised, not against.

And I used capitals to emphasise (once again) my stance. But thanks for the condescending remark on my grammar nonetheless.

For us, we didn't want to wait because of :

1. cycle irregularity meant it may be hard to conceive
2. pur ages and that we want more than one child
3. the evidence base suggested pregnant women and babies arent at a much higher risk from covid19
4. I didnt think the pandemic would negatively impact our family/our child (we were already v privileged and have been v lucky with our jobs, social circumstances in terms of Covid19)

I conceived pre-covid, and had my baby at the very start of lockdown, as ive said previously.

Am I offended by this thread?! Nope

I don’t think this is offensive.. seemed to me that OP was genuinely asking for opinions/ experiences, rather than judging anyone’s decision.

However... caps is generally read as shouting. You might want to try bold for emphasis instead.

Point taken (haha). I’ve never had to use caps or bold on MN before - can’t believe how a couple of posters reacted to this thread, it’s really quite sad.

After this evenings announcement, we’ve decided to put ttc on hold for a little while longer as it does worry me. But I also totally respect anyone who doesn’t want to put ther life on hold either. Wish Covid would hurry up & disappear! Good luck all

Because I’m 35 and it took years to have DC1 so I couldnt afford to wait too long if I wanted a second.
Because pregnancy and infancy even are only a tiny part of the life you are creating.
Because life goes on