Am I or is this normal?

[Mumoftwo1994]

Hi all,
So I'll try to keep this as short as I can but basically I'm a mum of twins (almost 9 months old) it was a crappy pregnancy and crappy recovery for me (I have epilepsy).
I never wanted children, my partner did and we were at a point were we potentially going to have to go our separate ways even though we were still in love. However, I then fell pregnant an accident obviously and I wasn't sure about termination so continued.
Now I was talking with my partner the other day and he said that he can't remember if I've ever said I love you to our twins, and honestly I can't remember if I ever have. I'm very affectionate but I'm not a natural mother in my opinion.
He's worried that due to my childhood (abusive) and I loves yous were not said to my memory, that our girls will grow up being distant or u loved by me like I do with my mum.

I suppose my question is, has anyone else been through this or give me any helpful advice?

Thanks

Please don’t worry about this, love is about more than just saying the words and at 9 months old the words won’t mean anything to them anyway. I don’t think my dad has ever told me he loves me in my whole life but I know that he does because of his actions.

Hearing the words is important, so if it doesnt come naturally to you make sure you practice and try to remember to say it regularly.

However, more important is that they feel loved. Do you show them affection? Enjoy their company?

If you didn't want them to start with and had a hard time, i can understand why your partner might be concerned that you're struggling to bond with them, or feel love for them.

It stands out to me that at no point in your post have you actually said that you love your children.