Am i being unreasonable...........i want another baby/he doesn't

[bealcain]

i've been with my DF for a few years now and we hafve 2 children. DS1 is 2 and DS2 is 8months......i'm so broody and want another baby! it's a now or never situation due to personal aspirations and future plans. he's adamant that he'd hate another, but he said that about DS2.....he also says that if i want more that badly he'll leave! i told him i really did want more and he's still here!

Do i get pregnant without him knowing? try and conceal it untill 23wks? how do you compromise on this situation?

I don't feel you can compromise on this as he is adament that he doesn't want any more. He probably feels that he compromised with ds2.

I am in a similar situation as we both agreed that we wanted to try for no2 but dh just keeps putting it off and I am not getting any younger (35).

ooo i dont like to give advice but i really really wouldnt get pregnant without his knowing. i think this could easily leave you in a situation by yourself with 3 small children and cause huge problems in your relationship. what a gamble that would be.It is a situation where it is difficult to reach a compromise, there isnt a half way, you are either pregnant or not. maybe shelve plans for 12 months and see how you feel then as 8 months is still very little and you can still be hormonal. explain to df this is what you are doing (i hear what you are saying about now or never and cant know how possible this is dependant on how flexible your future plans are) good luck those broody feelings can be so strong.

I felt like this a couple of months ago (2 dcs). Dh is against having another. I too did not want to 'wait' and have a third child in years to come, due to returning to study, career aspirations etc, so I know that 'now or never' feeling. After much discussion we have come to a sort of comprimise in that, Dh has agreed that he won't rule it out completely, and I have agreed to ease uo with the time pressure and see how we both feel next year.