Hi, looking for some advice please.
My STBXH and I have a 17 month old together. He has been living with his girlfriend for a few months and she has a child who is around 4 I think.
Last week my child went away with my ex for a couple of days and on the day after they left I got a text saying there had been an incident between the two children the day before which resulted in his girlfriends child biting mine on the arm. I asked him to send a picture across and asked if all was OK etc. When he did drop off the following day I asked if it had all been dealt with etc to which he said yes.
My child stayed with my ex on Friday and when they got home on Saturday I noticed another (more significant) mark in a different place. I'm 99% sure it is a bite mark due to the shape of it etc. I'm really upset by this for 2 reasons. Firstly, I hate to think that my child is in a position where they are being bitten when they visit their dad and it makes me worry what else may be happening that I don't know about. The other reason is that my ex failed to mention it to me. Since we spoke about the first bite he's been very off with me. We didn't have an argument, I just made it clear I wanted to make sure it was dealt with.
There has been so many things that I know my ex has lied to me about or failed to tell me the whole truth that I've never bothered to call him out on as it's not affected my child really, but this is different. I'm so upset that it has happened a second time in a week as I would have expected the children to be especially closely supervised.
Can anyone give me any advice on the best way to approach this? I'm trying to co parent as amicably as possible but I just want to make sure my child is safe.