Destructive son

[Clouds23]

Are all little boys destructive? My 6 year old seems to break everything, not in a bad way, through playing, this year alone he's broke 2 tvs (bouncing in his room) , 2 tablets, his bed (jumping on it), bedroom blinds,(not sure) and now pulled my ceiling light down by jumping off the sofa and grabbing it. He's a very hyper 6 year old, can have a temper is over powering sometimes, but can be the most loviest sweet boy.

He won't ever learn to treat things with respect if you keep replacing them. Why did you get new TVs and tablets for a child who destroyed them!?

If he breaks his own stuff, then he doesn't get new ones. If he breaks your stuff, take an arbitrary (but noticeable) amount out of his pocket or birthday money. Plus obvious consequences like having to clean it up and time outs etc.

And to answer your question, no. This may not be wildly unusual but it's not standard 6yr old behaviour either.

My boys have never broken anything of significance, and if they have broken a toy by mistake have been really upset over it.

That's a lot of broken things.

Do you mean he has a tv in his room? At 6?

Did you not learn your lesson when he broke his first tv?
He breaks things because they're instantly replaced; it means nothing to him.

2 TVs and tablets in his room at 6 is madness. As for bouncing off the sofa and grabbing a ceiling light at 6 surely he has had no discipline.

My son is a teenager now but has never been allowed to be boisterous and wild inside the house.

It's completely disrespectful and unnecessary behaviour and is bound to lead to things getting damaged and broken.

Can you not just set some rules so that it doesn't happen in the first place? It doesn't sound as though your son had any consequences or remorse if it keeps happening?

No judgement but sounds like he has unsupervised time that isn't so appropriate at 6...

How much outdoor exercise does he get? I'd recommend 2/3 hrs outdoors every day minimum, whatever the weather, and as much organised sport as you can afford. Gymnastics would be good and/or trampolining.

Then some boundaries in the house.

Wow thanks I didn't realise I would be penalised, he is supervised and has rules, he has always been like this from no age. I can't keep my eyes on him 24/7, it's not just my household he is like this. Thought I was coming on for advice not to be judged!! I know I shouldn't be replacing things. But there not replaced straight away, months apart, he does get stuff taken off him but his behaviour slips back to the norm for him. No punishment changes his behaviour

I also have other children who aren't like this at all, my other children are the complete opposite calm and relaxed and this one is a wild child in my eyes.

Who else's home is he destroying? Is he confused over rules? Does someone encourage his behaviour? My adult ds is happy for his ds to be a whirlwind.. He gets told off here and isn't happy about it
. Wrecks his home but isn't allowed to here...

Does he destroy things at school? On play dates?

He has rules in both mine and his dad's house. He gets told off there to. He can be a handful and everyone around him can see it. I've tried the doctors but refuse to see him for any behavioural issues as he sleeps and has a brilliant routine. He attends 3 different clubs but all cancelled now due to covid. He gets took out for walks & parks and that's about all we can do for now. He doesn't break things on purpose it generally is all through him playing about.

I am not judging...my ds was just the same and destroyed lots of things. Dd was totally different. We tried everything to discipline him but to no avail. If its any comfort he grew out of it (or our perseverance paid off) and he is a lovely son. He seemed to change when he started high school joined a football team etc. Stick with it and keep loving him. All the best

No. My just turned 3 yr old has rarely broken anything and is very respectful and gentle of his possessions. We’ve had a few things broken by visiting friends though, to the point that I lock his bedroom door so no one can play in there unsupervised.

What about when not with parents? Is he able to show respect and restraint in other people's homes?

FWIW when our nextdoor neighbour's 5yr old went through a phase of getting carried away and breaking things, she told her that if she couldn't be trusted she wouldn't be left alone. Cue 3 weeks of the child having to go literally everywhere with mum- sit on a stool in the utility while she folds washing, sit at the table while she cooks, nonstop supervision plus muchos boredom. Child hasn't broken a thing since!

I really hope he grows out of it. It all seems to expensive stuff that is broken. He attends football, bb, campaigners and a youth club. But all been cancelled since March, except football on and off due to covid. I was just looking advice, hoping I wasn't the only one with a wild child as none of my nephews, friends kids seem to be this destructive

I wouldn't have replaced the tv in his room.

What do you mean about his temper being overpowering at times, what happens then?

I have DS(15) he was never this destructive, and we had a rule about bouncing/jumping on the furniture

I have three sons, none of mine have been this way or broken any of their belongings so I definitely wouldn't say all boys are destructive. Sorry no advice.