Baby and own room - will she be ok?

[Blak]

Ok, so my DD is 4.5 months old and we are due to move home on the next couple of weeks, she’s been in the same room as us since birth but she doesn’t fit her Moses basket anymore so is in her cot bed. The new home we are moving too is a bigger house but the bedrooms are smaller which means because DD is not in her Moses anymore and her cot isn’t a cot it’s a cot bed it won’t fit in our bedroom with us and she will have to go into her own room. Is this ok? We have brilliant baby monitors and her room will be opposite ours?

We moved DD at 3 months and she didn't even notice we moved her, slept brilliantly in her own room.

I watched the monitor like a hawk 😂 but she was absolutely fine.

Risk of SIDS is low, and you can do other things to reduce it. You make your own risk assessment and do what is right for you.

I wouldn't move furniture if it would make my bedroom not feel like my bedroom, when you have a room where baby can go

If you have a travel cot, you could put that in your bedroom and use it until she's 6 months old. Travel cots aren't too expensive and they're useful too.

If you could fit her cot bed plus a single bed (or just a mattress) in one of the rooms, you could sleep in with her for a bit.

Statistics show that the highest risk of SIDS is when a baby is aged 1-4 months (72%) so if you have no choice but to put her in her own room, the risk is statistically low.
(Source safetosleep.nichd.nih.gov/resources/providers/downloadable/infographic_byage)

@Lazypuppy

We moved DD at 3 months and she didn't even notice we moved her, slept brilliantly in her own room.

I watched the monitor like a hawk 😂 but she was absolutely fine.

Risk of SIDS is low, and you can do other things to reduce it. You make your own risk assessment and do what is right for you.

I wouldn't move furniture if it would make my bedroom not feel like my bedroom, when you have a room where baby can go

And if you don’t have a room for your tiny-human-who-sometimes-forgets-to-breathe, or don’t feel adapting your home to meet their needs, why not bung them in a shed? I’m sure they’ll be hunky dorey. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Feminist10101 no need to be judgemental, every parent knows their own baby. I chose to reduce SIDs risk as much as i could, and i was happy with the very very low risk of SIDs with her being in her own room. Not everyone would do that, and thats ok.

Big thankyou to everyone who has taken their time to reply to my post. I have been leaving my DD for naps in her cot bed and she also goes to bed at 7pm in her cot bed and we have the baby monitor on until we go to bed at 10:30. We obviously check her regularly but this is the only way she’s Brennan able to settle as she is so alert and everything wakes her now. She has been more than ok. I will do some research and make my mind up. Again thankyou for your efforts of answering me.

Being not Brennan

My sister and I being identical twins didn’t fit in my parent’s room so we were in cots right next door. I survived but dsis died of SIDS. You can ignore the guidance and hope you never have to regret it but I couldn’t live with the guilt. I know lots of posters are saying they did it and it was fine, but for some it wasn’t fine. I can’t imagine the pain my parents experienced.

@Blak

Thanks all for the replies and I don’t mean to sound abrupt but do you not think I’ve thought about moving furniture or even staying in a different room? I have but the wardrobes are fitted and her cot is a cot bed, if it was just a cot it would fit but the cot bed is loads bigger. I will consider getting her something smaller to sleep in for the time being

I think the risk is tiny but how about a travel cot as an alternative

@m0therofdragons

My sister and I being identical twins didn’t fit in my parent’s room so we were in cots right next door. I survived but dsis died of SIDS. You can ignore the guidance and hope you never have to regret it but I couldn’t live with the guilt. I know lots of posters are saying they did it and it was fine, but for some it wasn’t fine. I can’t imagine the pain my parents experienced.

I'm so sorry Do you mind me asking how old were you and your sister when she died?

m0therofdragons for you and your parents

I remember seeing a news story about twins who nearly died because they were put in the same Moses basket and there wasn't enough air movement

I moved DS very nervously at about 4 months as he is an incredibly noisy sleeper and was keeping me awake with his grunting and mumbling (he was asleep) and I was at breaking point. We all slept better and life improved immediately. However I don’t think I would have if this weren’t the case and it did make me on edge at first. If they are not keeping you up or vice versa could you not sleep in the babies room for a little while?

On balance though, if you are absolutely taking care of all other risk factors I don’t believe there is a magic wand that means the day they turn 6 months this can’t happen, so you have to weigh it up logically risk v benefit