HELP - DD is WITHHOLDING her Urine

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Started potty training but decided to quit as she was holding her wee and dancing a gig before eventually going. Even though she is back in nappies she is still witholding. SHe hasn't gone since yesterday AM and clearly needs to go.

what can I do?

Thanks

didn't want to ignore
how is she today? does she have a uti perhaps? or just very very stubborn? hope she's doing ok

Well she went eventually in her nappy and there was a lot. She hasn't gone since. She is dancing a jig sayign she wants nappy change but DP is adamant that if we change a clean dry nappy it won't help her realise that she has the control iykwim.

I am inclined to change her nappy anything to encourage her to go. I don't think it is UTI but will take her to gp tomorrow I think.

Have you tried sitting her on her potty in the bathroom and have the taps running. A little trick I learnt.

No she won't sit on the potty or toilet at all. I have tried the tap though.

have you tried her in the nappies shaped like knickers, the 'grown up' ones. Does she see you on the toilet? If she doesn't see that it is something you do naturally she may be thinking you are trying to flush her away. Could she be worried that if she 'wees' her insides will fall out as well (not as uncommon as you might think).

She was okish with potty until she did a poo in it. Big aversion since then. After changing a completly dry nappy this am she did a big wee and a small poo in the new nappy. Has not done any since. It will be the same story tomorrow. She sees us using loo all the time. I just think she wasn't ready for what ever reason and she now has developed a bad response. Breaks my heart.

Ask your HV or doc about it they may have some idea's. Have you tried one of the loo seat adaptors, that fit in the loo to make the hole small enough for little bums. Maybe she didn't like the feel of the wetness or the poo on her bum, and telling her that on the big toilet she wont feel it. As usual try and make an occasion of it, go and buy one with her, let her choose the colour and a st of steps to go with it. May work.

DS1 was exactly the same, it was awful so I really feel for you. He held on to his wee even when we put a nappy back on him. If I can find the thread on here I started I'll post a link.

One thing I found was that when he was holding he wanted to sit down all the time, or sit on our knee. It sounds harsh but I made him walk, in the garden or round the house with me which forced it out. Lot harder to hold it if you are not sitting down.

I read a book with him alot about children potty training and letting their wees out.

It lasted about 3 weeks before it got better I'm sorry to say though after that time it did improve alot. He never got a urinary infection FWIW which used to worry me silly. Only other thing I would say is would it be worth you keeping her in pants as she is holding anyway and putting her in nappies is not making a difference? I just carried on with DS1 (though not at night) as I didn't want it again in 6 months time. (He had done a similar thing when I had tried about 6 months previously. Good luck I hope it gets better for you.