'Guide parents'

[2020firsttimemum]

Not sure where to put this but I guess it's to do with parenting.

Me and my partner are not religious but I really like the idea of having a couple of people in our lives to be our little boys 'guide parents' (god parents but non religious I suppose)

We have a few very special friends who I know would look after our little boy should anything ever happen to us, and that love him so incredibly much.

Has anyone else done this? Did you have like a christening and how did you ask those people?

Thank you

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Yes, we did that. DS has two sets of 'supporting adults' who we essentially call god parents as everyone understands that, even though there's no religious context at all!

We had a naming ceremony on DS's first birthday and they were part of that.

More importantly though, one set are his legal guardians, should anything happen to us. This is written in our will and naturally was discussed with them beforehand. One of the other god parents is a trustee, along with my brother and another friend, the idea being that they\d have oversight over any financial decisions to support DS if we died.

It's all quite complicated and difficult, but I'm really glad we've had all these discussions and recorded them officially with the solicitor.

We did the same as PP. We have close friends who are named in our Wills as DC's guardians and are also Trustees of our Life Assurance Policies. No official ceremony, just a signature on the Trustee form.

You can have a DIY naming ceremony - the humanists website may give you some ideas. I wish in retrospect we'd thought to do something like this.

humanism.org.uk/ceremonies/humanist-namings/