I am at my wit's end. Posting here because I would like to know if my expectations are unreasonable and for traffic.
DS has recently turned 4. He started nursery in September. It is attached to a school so a poty trained child was a pre-requisite. We started potty training in June, he caught on in 3-4 days and barring a few accidents in the initial 2 weeks has been dry, including nights.
School started in September and he just wont admit to needing a wee. If he gets taken there then he will just stand there and do it with his trousers on or all over the place without his trousers just not in the toilet.
His teachers are justifiably upset and concerned, not at him but with the situation.
We feel that he does have anxiety and for a good time didn't speak in front of other people. He has been better recently but still wont do things (reading, singing etc) in front of other people. He is bright otherwise, reads fluently, very good with numbers, pretend play, reasoning, etc.
I have tried positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement, ignoring the issue, everything but it is still the same.
Where am I going wrong? Do I just need to give him more time which is what I have been doing till recently but the school is now escalating and I do need to do something.
Any advice is massively appreciated.