6 year old wetting himself at school

[Imylil33]

Hopefully I am in the right place for this but my son has just gone into year 1 at primary school and every day he is wetting himself. This is only at school never at home and never during the night. Hes now starting to get sore down below which I am applying cream. Can anyone point me in the right direction as to why he is now doing this? We have never had this problem before.

Was it a big change for him at starting school/new year?
Have you spoken to teachers, do they say he's settled?
Have you talked to him about it? Is he upset/worried about something? Does he generally enjoy school?

If he is happy in school and no issues then I'd take him to the doctor, would probably take him anyway to be honest.

Constipation often leads to daytime wetting - the ERIC website is a really helpful resource about this and more generally.

Does he know how to get to the toilets, is he comfortable making his own way there and is he allowed to go during class time.

Dds school they had toilets adjoining the class room in reception but yr 1 onwards they were in a shared hallway.

They're encouraged to only use them during breaks and lunch not during class time so a much different routine.

I suppose because of covid hes been off since March and hes been thrown back into school. He hasn't said of any worries he has and he seems happy at school and home. I've spoke to the teacher numerous times and she has said because the children are in bubbles for their own classes then they must go toilet at allotted times during the day. Hes been so embarrassed about it and his dad and I are separated and it seems to always be when his dad has him after school? I dont know if this is a factor also.

Have you asked him and ruled out uti and constipation?

Is he too nervous to ask to go to the loo? With all the disruption of the past few months, he might be finding it hard to adjust to being back at school. If they have a TA, would it be possible for them to remind your DS to go to the loo a couple of times a day so he doesn’t get desperate? I feel so bad for him.☹️

Just saw your update. Does he actually “go” during his allocated toilet break? If he empties his bladder then, he’ll be less likely to have an accident.

My sons been doing this and the culprit was the latch type hook on his trousers
I felt so bad 🤕 for him

As in he couldn't pull trousers down fast enough basically

@cultkid my little boy can get changed and unchanged at home so I didnt think it could be the clasp but good point so I will ask him.

@AmICrazyorWhat2 I did ask him if he is definitely going in the allocated times and explained he must try and go even if he doesn't have the 'feeling' he said he doesn't always need to go then. He said his teacher never let's him go but I've spoke to her lots of times about this and she said she always reminds him to go.

@thatwentbadly I did ask him if it stung when he wees and he said no. I've taken his temperature and that's has been fine.

It is possible that he still has an infection. I would drop off a sample at the GPS and get them to get it.

*test it.

I've managed to get hold of the doctor and she seems to think it doesn't sound like a UTI but more of a shyness to ask or maybe leaving it too late. She said I can call tomorrow again to speak to a pediatrician which I will do.

Maybe scared of asking to go
Maybe scared of missing something if he leaves classroom
Maybe the toilets are unpleasant to use
Possibly so caught up in tone activity he's doing he leaves it too late.

Sorry typo
Caught up in activity

@Lulu1919 this is exactly what I thought. I'm going to speak to him one on one at bed time and just see if he can let me know what's going on

You said it's when he goes to his dads after school, is it always then or just usually?
If it's only then, could it be connected to going to dads? Has something changed there, is he nervous about it?

Bless him I feel so sad for him :(

@cactusdog well he never wets himself at school when I pick him up and he comes home with me. It's always his dad who calls me and says hes wet himself again. And one time he wet himself in his booster seat in dads car. I did bring this up with dad but he is having none of it and insists it's at school but for some reason I feel it's happening whilst he is there? His dad has just moved to a different house and hes no longer living with his mum (their nan) so I'm not sure if this has had an impact. He is a really sensitive boy. Hes lovely.

Are you sure he isn't wetting himself at school when you get him as well? Have you smelt is trousers to check?

Is he close with his dad xx

If it really is just on dads days then I would personally be thinking it was more to do with dad than school.
Is your relationship ok with ex?
I'd say no having his Nan around is a big thing for a little one and maybe she used to do a lot with him that dad isn't so he's missing her/feeling scared/lonely?
Does he have a good relationship with his dad?
Must be so tough for you too xx

Is he definitely doing it at school, or with his Dad? It seems odd he doesn't do it when you pick him up.

@cultkid no I've been checking him every day he comes home from school and he isnt wet or smelly at all.

@cactusdog we have an ok relationship it's up and down to say the least. He lived with his mum for 4 years after our split and I do know his mum did quite a lot for the children. It is tough i feel so bad for him and i just want to help.

@TokyoSushi its just so strange. Ive brought it up with dad but be gets touchy about it.

I'm picking him up from school today so I will check him and see what's going on.