Really need some advice!!!
My DD is 10 and has struggled her whole life with eczema which gets worse when she is anxious. Like a lot of children she is currently very anxious and needy.
Her stepdad has been in her life since she was 4 and has alway been a good dad to her and take his parenting responsibilities very seriously. DS will have the usual " your not my real dad" when she is angry but will also talk to him when she is anxious and needs comfort.
DD has cream that she has to apply to her eczema 4 times a day, this is on her wrists but also behind her knees and on her shins. We have been trying to encourage her over the past couple of years to apply her own cream however she refuses. My mother asked her recently to put on her cream and my DD said she wanted to wait for her dad to help. My mother told her that her dad should not be doing this but would not say why.
This has left my daughter very upset and confused and has also upset me and her dad.
I really wanted to know what everyone's thought were on step dad applying cream
Really would like support and polite opinions either way
We also have an 8 year old son and 6 month old daughter ( not sure how relevant that is 
Thank you