Am I being over the top

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Hi everyone
Dd is 8 months old and I’m due to start a new job in a months time part time three days a week .This will be the first time I will be away from her for more than two hours . The thought of this is making me worry , get emotional and feel physically sick . How can I become less worried about leaving her. I know she’s fine with her dad I just don’t want to be away from her for that long

No advice but you are not being over the top and most mums are the exact same upon going back to work. I'm absolutely dreading it and it's still months away for me 😞

You're not being over the top at all and do not allow anyone to tell you different. I believe most mum's feel this way when it comes to returning to work. My little one is three and I still feel mum guilt for the time I spend away from her all the time. Her dad thinks I'm silly and that that's life but I think it's part and parcel to motherhood.

I understand... but she’s going to be with her dad! As long as you trust him I think you’ll both quickly adjust. My nine month old goes to nursery three days a week and it can be hard leaving her but if she was at home with her dad I think it would be so much easier.

But she'll be with her dad? Not a stranger, her father, who is just as much her parent as you are. You'll miss her, sure, but unless there's about to be a huge dripfeed about him being an abusive feckless moron, you shouldn't be feeling worried about him taking care of her. Worried about you missing her, yes, completely get that. Worried about her being OK with her own parent? That in itself is a little concerning.

@Ohalrightthen. He’s brilliant I’m not concerned about leaving her at all . I’m worried about how I will feel not seeing her. I know she will be fine with him. It’s more the fact I’ve hardly ever left her that I’m worrying how I will deal with that he situation

OP, you'll feel guilty and sad and that's totally ok and normal. I was desperate to go back to work (part time after 13 months maternity leave) and as soon as I got to work I wanted to go home! It gets easier and now I get the biggest smile and he shouts mama at me when I get home. Try and make the most of the easy coffee breaks and going to the loo without a companion 😁