Has anyone else’s child relay events back to you where the new story they tell sounds like something social services would be interested in?

[justanotherneighinparadise]

It’s like my son takes a somewhat benign event, waits a few days or weeks then retells it to me ie. do you remember when X happened? But suddenly the story is peppered with a lot more drama, some stuff that never happened and a smattering of truth.

He’ll talk about the time daddy hit him with the iPad for example. I was in the room, it was a complete accident. But my son’s version is retold as though the scenario was abusive.

I’m genuinely concerned he’ll just say this stuff to his teacher one day and I’m going to get called in this common or a concern? He’s eight and we think on the spectrum but no diagnosis.

Well there was this one time where we could hear ds shouting very loudly 'daddy stop hitting me' which yes does not sound good but ds was jumping on DH's head at the time as they were doing some wrestling thing and we did not realise how strong ds was, it was stopped after that.

Not sure if he went to school and told anyone

I think children say these things which they believe are the truth. They see things differently. My children do it ‘Mummy hit me on the head’ um, no, you silently squeezed past me as I turned around not knowing you were there and accidentally elbowed you
When I was about 3/4 (I remember this clearly!) I was walking down the stairs and my Dad was walking down behind me, he slipped and fell down the stairs and obviously knocked me down too, I tumbled down a few but he grabbed me at the bottom and cushioned my landing I was a bit bruised and a bit scared but no broken bones or anything. The next day I went to nursery and guess what I told the teachers? Yep, I said ‘my Daddy pushed me down the stairs’ in my mind that’s exactly what happened, when you’re small you don’t realise the implications or have the language skills. They were concerned and spoke to my mum but realised it was an accident and I’d been knocked as he fell rather than pushed down.

I’m amazed I’ve still got my children with what my youngest relays. An unfortunate clip on a body part of naked dd with a towel when messing around pre bath time , left my youngest cheerfully informing the health visitor at immunisations, that a bit of pain was okay cause “ my mummy always hurts us, once she hit ds with a towel and he screamed a lot” the nurse looked me in the eye and remarked her speech is amazing for 3 .
For the next week I expected a knock on the door and my children to be removed.

@Caspianberg - that's hilarious 😂😂😂

@Sweetpotatoaddict

I’m amazed I’ve still got my children with what my youngest relays. An unfortunate clip on a body part of naked dd with a towel when messing around pre bath time , left my youngest cheerfully informing the health visitor at immunisations, that a bit of pain was okay cause “ my mummy always hurts us, once she hit ds with a towel and he screamed a lot” the nurse looked me in the eye and remarked her speech is amazing for 3 . For the next week I expected a knock on the door and my children to be removed.

Yep, it’s the inference that a one off accidental event occurs regularly that really made me 🙈

I just used to love it when the kids of the social climbing aspirational upper middle class parents (including me) consistently wrote every week about 'I played Minecraft' during 'what I did at the weekend' even though they had been to the library/animal park/Karate/the theatre or the art gallery. Every. Single. Time. 🤣.

@Glendaruel

Teachers are wise to this generally but nqt's can get caught out by exaggeration/completely false tales, my head teacher friend says trying to explain to nuances of when it's truly a safeguarding matter is not easy!

When ds was 4, he got a small paper cut from a book. I didn’t have a tissue and I quickly just licked my finger and wiped the blood off. Somehow this turned into....

‘Mummy drunk my blood’

I was in our back garden, and I can remember my DD standing by an upstairs window, which was open, yelling "Mummy, tell Daddy to stop putting his thing in my mouth!"
He was trying her out with an electric toothbrush!

When I was a child my mother worked night shifts. One sunny Saturday when I was around 6, she came home from work and went to bed, while my dad took us to the neighbours house for a bbq. At around 2pm, mum emerged from her sleep and joined us next door. The kids played in the paddling pool while the adults had some drinks in the sun.

This led to me telling my teachers the following Monday that my mummy drinks cider for breakfast 🤦🏻‍♀️ She was called in for a meeting to check our welfare!