I just can't do anything right.

[jojo38]

I feel that I just cannot do anything right with my kids.
One is dyspraxic and I have now been told that he may be making up stories to get other people in trouble at school. My son the liar...
I forgot to buy some biscuits today - he is in a strop now and I feel bloody useless. I have been painting my bedroom most of the day and totally forgot...I did promise I would get them today. I have apologised but still made to feel like a wicked witch.

The other one in his early teens has just had a scrape with his life - stupid boy bought a bottle of vodka, now my heart is breaking coz I feel I am not ready to unground him. He hates me now because I won't let him go out tomorrow with his mates. He is out on Thurs and playing in a gig on saturday. I have let him have back some privileges but not to fast.

My step son has just told his dad he doesn't like coming here, and has said it is because of my youngest.

My husband hasn't even mentioned the bedroom!!!

I wonder why I am here sometimes. Would they notice if I disappeared? Mind you, who would they have a go at? Perhaps I should try.

seriously, I feel like crap.

I will add that I appreciate my youngest making stories but I really don't think he is lying about it. He is picked on by someone at his school. I am sure he isn't lying. I just don't know my own children anymore and I feel like crying. Prehaps I have just hit a brick wall.

Poor you. Sounds like you've had a really awful time of it. Re the vodka incident, I think that's pretty normal and I think you seem to be handling it really well. There are an awful lot of men who wouldn't notice a repainted bedroom - I suspect my very nice husband would be one of them. As for your youngest, how old is he? If you believe him, then maybe you just need to talk to him and to the teacher and back him up.
Try not to let it get on top of you so badly.

Thank you aloha.
I've just had it.
My stepson is unhappy being here and blames my youngest - he's 10, and ss is 9, 10 in december.
I am at my wits end. I am so worried that my son will now be labelled a liar, just because it has been mentioned that this may be happening. He has enough problems as it is.
My dh's children have not been the angels he makes out them to be and now realises this, after a lot of time. I am now embarrassed that my two are showing signs of problems.

I am sure I am over reacting and very tired. I just don't want this to be happening to me at the moment. Oh well, grin and bear... grin and bear. Thanks again. I just needed a word of comfort and support. {{{Hugs}}}

What a day, poor thing. Don't let the younger ds get you down - he's only sulking. My dds do that to me and it's very difficult to take ... they manage to make you feel so HORRENDOUSLY GUILTY! Don't they! Like you've ruined their life or something. IMO it's better not even to think about this story telling at school until the morning - you'll see it all more clearly, I hope.

Mine are not yet teenagers, am dreading that but I reckon you're doing the right thing with yours. They do say kids really need something to push against. Stick to your guns. You sound like your'e doing a great job... and as for your paintwork, hope DH notices it eventually! Chin up!

What a day, poor thing. Don't let the younger ds get you down - he's only sulking. My dds do that to me and it's very difficult to take ... they manage to make you feel so HORRENDOUSLY GUILTY! Don't they! Like you've ruined their life or something. IMO it's better not even to think about this story telling at school until the morning - you'll see it all more clearly, I hope.

Mine are not yet teenagers, am dreading that but I reckon you're doing the right thing with yours. They do say kids really need something to push against. Stick to your guns. You sound like your'e doing a great job... and as for your paintwork, hope DH notices it eventually! Chin up!

jojo38, I haven't got any advice as I'm only just starting out in family life (9.5mth DS) but I wanted to send lots of hugs.

Thanks wellsie... and good luck hun. Enjoy your new family. boy or girl or other?

Hello all, just to say thank you for your hugs and support.
I have posted something about anger management and on there is something that really blew me away.
Thanks again all.