A clueless Miaou is about to start potty-training ds1 and would like some advice/tips

[Miaou]

Despite having two dds I can't remember a single thing about potty training (was it so bad that I wiped it from my memory I wonder ?!). Ds is showing some signs of being ready and doesn't like wearing nappies (and hates having it changed) so I'm willing to give it a try.

OK so some questions.

How do I start? Do I go cold turkey and put him straight into pants or do I do it gradually?

If gradually, what is the best way to start? Running around in the buff at bedtime/morning and encourage him to use it, then put him in nappies for the rest of the day?

Is it better to arrange to be at home for the first few days (actually I think I can answer that one myself )

I've bought 15 pairs of pants and I think I have about 8-10 pairs of trousers (plus some big boy vests!) - enough?

Any other tips gratefully received! Have been reading through the archives but would still like some help

But DS1's nursery wnat them to be potty trained .

WTF am I going to do? He starts on the 6th November

JAM I suggested that to dh but he wasn't sure, particularly as I want to start off with ds weeing sitting down! (I did think of asking dd2 to wee in it just to show him )

IG, not sure if it's the same in England, but here in Scotland they are not allowed to discriminate against children who are not potty trained (a fairly recent rule). So yes, they are bound to push as many parents as possible to get their kids out of nappies, but it is unrealistic to expect all kids to be trained at a certain age! How old is ds, IG? IIWY I would contact the nursery and tell them that you are having no success and want to leave him in nappies for now - I honestly don't think they can turn him away!

he's 2.10, and showindg NO signs of being ready, although he does know that he shpould wee in the potty/loo, bercaiuse he's done it before! And he can tell me he needs a wee or a poo.

I did cry the other day whan a so-called freind told me "OMG is he STILL in nappies?" Like we were freaks or something

Aw IG, you really don't need the pressure! Grr at very insensitive friend . Dd2 was over 3 before she "got it" and, as has been pointed out, girls are usually quicker than boys. THere are loads of threads in the archives in this section about kids who were late to be trained (and technically speaking, 2.10 is not late anyway!).

Have nursery said categorically that they won't accept him if he is not potty trained? I honestly don't think they can as it would be discrimination on the grounds of ability (that's certainly how it is presented in Scotland). I would ring them tomorrow and check, then relax and leave it until after Christmas.

They said they would prefer it if they were potty trained.

Fookin hell.

Thais is abouit thr 7th time we have tried with DS1

And then we have to go through it all again in another year with DS2

I am not having any more kids. No siree

LOL IG. I said that after dd2. Then six years later had two boys

Hang on to that word "prefer" and forget about potty training for now. If he is anything like my ds, then you can put him in a clean nappy just before nursery and it will do him until he comes home at lunchtime (unless he poos which is not often at that time of day). Going to nursery is a big enough change for him to deal with - let him get comfortable with going there first, then try again with the potty training in a couple of months. IMHO.

I'll ring them tomorrow

I have visions ofDS going to secondary school still in nappies.

IG - no honestly he won't!!! He'll be fine .

JAM - ROFL at mummy and the chocolate!! Love it!

Success

Ish

DS told me he nbeeded a wee, and promptly sat on the potty and did one. However, it went over the top as he hadn't tucked his willy in properly, and I wasn't watchimg him properly, as I was tstopping DS2 from iilling himself on then stairs

But I am counting as a success

well done walrus.

With ds2, we must have enforced the willy down. Religiously, he sits down and says: 'Me do big wee now. Willy down? Yes me willy down. Time for big wee'

lol popsy!! IG, I would definitely count that as a success - well done ds!

We are in the throws of potty training to0. DS (2.10)started nursery last month and they also prefer them to be trained, but ds goes in pull-ups as he is very forgetful with regards to the toilet when playing. Also he refuses to do poos in the toilet or potty because of the "poo monster", a "kind" input from his big sister I belive .

Lo re Poo Moster input Evil things, older siblings.

WALRUS! That is a MAJOR success! Keep going! No nappies! No more nappies! What's the worst that can happen? Get a pair of lightweight trousers and spare undies in your bag wherever you go (with a bunny bag). DS still wees himself and more often than not poos himself, but that is the learning experience! He is definitely soooo ready - now it's your turn to be!

PS.. due to DS being Rugby player frame, we have had to enforce the "bum snug at the back, willy down" whilst on the potty chair.

Now, that was a major success for us Walrus - I took him to Mothercare so he could pick his very own special big boy potty chair. That's when things really clicked in (and for reference I do mean that relatively )