Hi,
Covid has thrown everyone a curve ball for 2020.
Pre-covid my dad was diagnosed with the most aggressive form of Brain Cancer and given a prognosis of 11-15 months IF he responded well to treatment.
Then Covid happened. He had to shield so it took 4 precious months away from us. Having our 3 year old miss out on that time with him broke my heart.
We then lost my dads mum to Covid in May. No under lying health conditions, but she was 93 and just not strong enough to fight it off.
We’re 13 months in now and his latest MRI didn’t give us the any good news.
With infection rates rising my dad is naturally not wanting to put himself at risk by going out. But I also don’t want to lose anymore time with him, so trying to take as many precautions as possible. I rarely go out and do as much as I can to make sure I don’t get sick.
After out work had a positive covid test. I asked my partner to start wear a mask whilst at work (we have our own business) and he interacts with 30-40 whilst he’s there (approx 3 hours). He’d previously agreed to it, just after lockdown, but now he refuses.
He says he doesn’t need to wear a mask because he’s social distancing whilst there, but when I arrive for my shift he’s not socially distancing at all. When I say something he just shrugs his shoulders and says “oh well”.
When I try to have a talk to him about it he just turns it on me. Saying I should stop going food shopping once a week because wearing my face mask and using hand sanitiser is no guarantee I won’t pick up the virus.
I’ve told him if I need to make the choice between staying home just because he’s my partner or moving out to spend what time I have left with my dad and keep him safe he’s making it a really easy choice.
It’s kinda left me numb. I don’t want to move out but feel like I no longer have a reason to stay.