I am new to childminding and started minding three children three months ago . I have a child of my own . I am having a lot of trouble with one of the mindees who is aged four . The other two children are absolutely lovely and very well behaved .
The eldest child has deliberately broken toys including doing it deliberately in front of his mother at collection to which she said nothing . He instructs the two younger ones aged two when he believes I’m out of earshot to hit each other , throw sand at each other or throw stones into the boiler pipe . He demands food and says he always gets what he wants . I hold firm to the house rules and explain that in this house we do x,y and z he sulks . It escalated when he asked my son to throw stones at me and he was smashing bricks against the side of the house . So I have spoken to his mam about his behaviour and she said it’s just he is an intelligent child and has always wound people up he even does it with her but she would have a word with him . He does lock her out of the car most days on collection .
Just looking for advice on how to promote positive behaviour because I feel he gets his way a lot and isn’t used to being expected to behave . It’s very draining and I don’t feel going back to the parents will help and I also feel it’s taken time away from my child and from the other two mindees . I feel if his behaviour doesn’t improve I will have to let them go through as it’s not good for my child either to be around this behaviour and I’m also too exhausted to enjoy his when they go home .
Just wondering had anyone encountered something similar and who did they address it