Soothing my baby - help and reassurance please

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I’m a FTM to a baby boy who is 6 weeks tomorrow. I believe he’s been experiencing his first “leap” at 5 weeks as per the wonder weeks app I have. Yesterday I thought he was getting a bit calmer but by the evening he was a different baby. He usually settles with my husband first part of night with a bottle but he didn’t want it. Constantly whining and grizzling until I had to wake up and feed him. Then he just wouldn’t sleep all night. He usually does 2 hr naps between feeds and I can put him down. He wouldn’t settle unless on my chest. This morning same grizzly behaviour. Won’t have a cuddle with husband, only me. Wants feeding more and when I put him in a carrier on me he still cried. I’m a bit at my wits end today already as we are meant to be going to a friends house and I feel like he’s going to be a grizzly grouchy boy all day. Feeling like I’m failing him somehow as he won’t settle. Any help or stories from anyone would help me loads

At that age I was constantly wondering which of the seven dwarfs my son would be that day - happy, grumpy, sleepy!

It’s difficult, but you are doing amazingly well. Give him cuddles if that’s what he needs. My boy is 5 months and days like this will pass.

I could of written this post! No advice but i am 5.5 weeks in and having the exact same issue!! Sending hugs - its fucking shit!!

Growth spurt as well about that age

Totally normal to settle better with mum than dad

And you can't be 'usually' when a baby is only 6 weeks old sorry, it changes a lot, and not always for the better

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Growth spurt as well about that age

Totally normal to settle better with mum than dad

And you can't be 'usually' when a baby is only 6 weeks old sorry, it changes a lot, and not always for the better

I’m quite aware that his routine may change due to growth spurts but for the past 6 weeks he has been sleeping for 2 hrs and waking for feeding so in my eyes it’s a change of character. I’m a first time mum so I’m just looking for a bit of reassurance thanks

My little fella is 12 weeks now, and only I’m starting to feel some sort of normality / routine. At 6 weeks, I was knackered, healing from c-section & he cried / fed non-stop. The cluster-feeding was brutal...
Some nights I had to get into bed & leave him to scream the house down with DH & the bottle. I just had to close the door & block it out. Yes, I did feel bad, but being available to the baby 24/7 is just too hard.
Feeling like a bad mum is something I’ve come to terms with now. I know I’m not, it’s only during the tough times. You are doing your best.

Mum of 4 here, you sound like you’re doing well. My best advice is not to think about it too much and just go with it.. feed constantly if that’s what they want, carry them, cuddle them. At 12-16 weeks they start to settle down a bit. But it’s normal for a baby to wake every few hours for the first year really. Just get rest when you can. You’re not doing anything wrong and neither is your baby. Good luck

My boy is 10 weeks now when he is fussy and crying non stop, I find swaying him in my arms and playing some white noise helps him settle. You can find white noise videos on YouTube that can help.

Very normal for 6 weeks.

At this age just go with it. Cluster feeds happen, witching hours (early evening grizzles and cries that start and stop at the same time every night) ramp up, growth spurts come along.

It's hard but just go with it. If that means cancelling plans, that's ok.

No advice, they can be such miserable little things at this age but they do get better with time.

Oh you have my sympathies! It's so hard at that age. They're starting to wake up more and so they get super clingy.

As long as you don't think he's poorly (has he had recent ims ?) it's very much a button down the hatches and go with the flow.

Demand many snacks and drinks from OH and lots of Netflix.

Walks in fresh air too, sling if you can find one (close caboos or wraps are great as mimick the womb.) and when they're used to that you can pass to daddy more.

If found bobs and sways and background noise helpful (radio or tv or music.)

I found with leaps they tend to change their sleep / nap pattern not long after but it usually all goes to pot for a bit first.