Son said he wishes I was dead

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I know he's only 12. I pissed him off by telling him to change his uniform. Why that made him so angry is beyond me. I had to leave the house for ten minutes to take a walk. I actually lost my dad at his age, so that hurt.

Kids can say the most awful things. I'm sure he doesn't mean it. Maybe something is bothering him or a bad day at school. He must have been really irritated beforehand about something for that reaction. Don't let it affect you.

When they get to this age they become aggressive because they are developing and don't think of themselves as children but act like children.

Don't take it to heart

I seem to be on the other side of the road from everyone else, but I absolutely would not accept that behaviour- what a little shit! Hormones and puberty isn't an excuse to be vile, and boys don't get a pass to be aggressive because of biology!

If i were you, he'd be doing his own laundry, cooking, cleaning etc for the next month, and he doesn't get any of the luxuries you've paid for. Make sure you explain exactly why it's happening. See how much he'd actually like living without you.

Ouch! Sorry about your dad.

I’d bring this back up with him when he is calmer. Even though he is only 12 words can have power and he needs to know this kind of behaviour is upsetting and not on

Hi, where do I start??
I have had to kick my 16 year old son out as he is physically, mentally and emotionally abusive to myself and his twin sister and 8 year old sister, years ago court order in place stating he cannot live with me, to reside with his father, his father abandoned him and left him to fend for himself, social services bullied me to take him in even though was going against court order! I now suffer with mental health issues due to his dad being violent to me etc etc, non molestation order in place. Anyway my son now hates me, has sent me messages threatening me, telling me to slit my wrists and die, telling me to watch my back etc, I feel sick to the stomach and right now have nowhere to turn and feeling very suicidal.

Hi @Kdm8, you might want to start your own thread so you can get the support you need. Please do also check out our Mental Health Webguide which has lots of places which may be able to offer support

Kdm8 Why was your son originally not allowed to live with you and how old was he when the court order was made?