2yo gone off me

[bornninthe80s]

My DD just turned 2. She's my only and has been a bit of a mummy's girl her whole life (while always adoring of her dad).

In the last 2-3 weeks she literally couldn't give a #%* about me. My DH works from home two days a week and I'm currently out of full time work and am therefore full time parenting 6 days a week (one of those days I work - not sure if any of the working stuff is relevant).

Everything is "daddy do it" and she wants "daddy come too", daddy cuddles etc. To the point where I say mummy will come too/give you a cuddle, etc she throws a fit. In the morning if I go in she says "NO. daddy!"

It's starting to really grind me down on top of the Groundhog Day of life where my whole existence centres around entertaining her, going on the same walk every day, etc. I've always been loving and affectionate and she's my world but this is no longer funny, it's really upsetting.

Any experience/advice please?

No advice sorry, just solidarity.

Every time I try and speak to my 2 year old, it's "mummy stop!" Or if I do something etc. Daddy on the other hand, can do no wrong. Yet I do the majority of the 'stuff'.

to you op. It will pass.

It truly is a phase, though I know it doesn't feel that way right now. You're there all the time and that is unsettling her or making her feel a bit different, and the only thing to do is continue to be the same lovely mum you always have been.

The more you show her it upsets you, the more interesting you make this game. Or if you withdraw it's teaching her that your love is conditional (which I can see it isn't).

In the meantime, I'd use this as a great opportunity for your DH to do a lot while you can take up running or yoga or knitting or whatever won't be possible when she re-attaches to mummy again!

Definitely a phase! DD was and still is a Daddy's girl, although at 6 she does fluctuate between us a bit more, and often asks to have 'girl time'. When she was about 2 she went through a patch of replying to "I love you, DD" with "I love Daddy." It makes me laugh now but the first few times it upset me a bit!

DS is 2 and is a total Mummy's boy and it's utterly exhausting!

Don't worry OP. It's frustrating at times but it won't last.

O bless you mum's. I am sorry that you are all going through this. No advice just send you 🍫🍷🍰💐 and an honest promise that it is a phase. It doesn't seem like it at the moment I do understand that but really it will pass.

We have this the other way in our house. Does my head in sometimes tbh when I just want to go for a shit without having to listen to her throwing a hissy fit at the bottom of the stairs whilst DH tries in vain to distract her. It's just a phase.

Try Not to take it to heart, it's just a phase!

Most of them go through it and most of them 'have a turn of each'.

I think the thing is not to let them dictate. So if DH can go and get her up, do that before she demands daddy. But if he's getting ready for work/making breakfast or whatever just say Not, Daddy is busy, let's get your clean nappy on/dressed/whatever then we can go and see Daddy'. Don't let it be a big deal, but be firm. SHE is not in charge.

You'll soon be her 'favourite' and it'll be Daddy's turn to take a back seat!!

Thanks everyone. I think she still loves me deep down but it's so heartbreaking getting pushed aside 🤷🏻‍♀️ I really do hope it's a phase. Trying not to show her it's upsetting me. Funny as I'm usually the least needy person ever!!

They do say parenting is a thankless task I suppose!