Father seeing his newborn

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I am due to have my second DC next month. Me and the father have split. We already have one child together who he has for one night a week. When discussing access for the newborn exH seemed to be under the impression it would be exactly the same for the newborn. I said there is no way he is having the newborn overnight. I said I thought him coming to visit a couple of times a week would be more appropriate. There is no way in the first few weeks/months I will want to be away from baby. Not sure if I'm bf yet but plan to at least try. Just wondered what others did when it came to fathers access to a newborn?

Little and often is best when they’re tiny, definitely not overnights for a newborn.

Thank you @2Kidsinatrenchcoat that is what I thought. Not sure how he will take the news but it's what is best for baby.

Agree with previous poster and yourself. New born definitely with mum- I think clear boundaries of when can visit as you’ll be figuring a new routine and won’t want him to disturb it but also allow flexibility within the first few months as long as it works for you, baby and DC1

Don’t feel pressured by him to change this, you have your mama instincts for a reason!

I wouldnt consider regular over night stays til at least 6 months but like PP's have said it's what you are comfortable with, not him unfortunately. Don't let him bully you into doing anything you don't want because it's not about him it's about your new little human x

I wouldn't consider regular overnight stays until at least two years. Research has shown negative consequences for the children if this is attempted too young. Contact arrangements should be about what's best for the child, not its parents.