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2 yrs 9 months of bedwetting and I am pissed off

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Katymac · 08/10/2007 20:08

I know I shouldn't be

I know I am being unfair

I am also childish and unreasonable

But I am really, really pissed off with it

At least for tha last year or so we haven't had wet beds as she is in puu-ups

But we have weeks when she doesn't wet more than once or twice and then months when she is wet every night

It started when she was being bullied but that has been stopped for over 15 months and thought the bedwetting would have stopped by now especailly as we changed the school

I know it is worse for DD but tonite I am pissed off with it all, sorry

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Othersideofthechannel · 08/10/2007 20:12

How old is she?

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Katymac · 08/10/2007 20:12

10 in 6 weeks

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LoveMyGirls · 08/10/2007 20:13

I would be too KM, really do not blame you.

Have you got those washable sheets (about a metre square) that can be washed, if you get a couple you can just whip it off and put the a new one under so dont have to re-make the whole bed?

Don't know what to suggest really? How old is your dd again?

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LoveMyGirls · 08/10/2007 20:13

Have you been to your gp?

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Katymac · 08/10/2007 20:14

We have been seeing a specialist for over 18 months

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LoveMyGirls · 08/10/2007 20:17

Was a silly question really. What have the specialists said?

Othersideofthechannel · 08/10/2007 20:17

I don't think it is being unfair, childish or unreasonable to be pissed off at it.
You don't sound like you are pissed off at her just at the situation.

There are plenty of people with really horrendous things happening in their lives on and off mumsnet but you still have a right to say 'Grrrrr!' from time to time.

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Katymac · 08/10/2007 20:20

They don't know why she is bedwetting

It might be the bullying it might be that she doesn't make enough hormones, it may be that her bladder is irritable

I don't know - but I am well fed up, monthly appointments that I can never attend or when I can nothing ever changes or I have to jump through hoops just to get to

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LoveMyGirls · 08/10/2007 20:22

That sounds so fustrating no wonder you are pissed off. At least you are trying to get to the root of the problem.

I guess you have tried waking her and taking her to the loo before you go to bed?

Heated · 08/10/2007 20:24

A friend's son is such a bad sleeper than when he does sleep through, he sleeps like the dead & has accidents once or twice a week. He is 8 and she's just bought those pads with the sensor in them - too early to tell if they've done the trick, but just thought I'd mention them and see if you've tried them?

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Katymac · 08/10/2007 20:25

Yes doesn't work
Neither does waking her at 4am or 5am before her gets up

Or stopping drinking after 4pm

or only drinikng clear/not (orange/blackcurrent/fizzy/milky/tea/coffee) stuff

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MellowMa · 08/10/2007 20:26

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Katymac · 08/10/2007 20:31

I'm going to try & get the alarm this time - this has gone on long enough

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Katymac · 08/10/2007 20:59

Heated your frined 'bought' the pads - do you know where from?

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Cadmum · 09/10/2007 20:11

Katymac,

Forgive me for jumping in and not doing a search to find out if you have already answered this elsewhere: Does your daughter happen to have enlarged adenoids or tonsils? My niece wet the bed until she was 13 (from about 8 years old) and my SIL was really at wits end when the GP discovered that my niece's adenoids were enlarged.

The upshot was that she never slept soundly enough to give her bladder the proper 'sleep' signal.

I remember following your threads about possible dyslexia some time ago... Are things much better for her at school?

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Katymac · 09/10/2007 20:15

Cadmum - I never really looked - i might after she gets back from Guides (off to collect in a minute)

School is much better now - she moved school & moved from bottem group to top set english

She was being bullied - quite viciously about her skin colour and since that stopped things have been much better - I do worry however that the aftereffects are still with us (the bedwetting)

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Katymac · 09/10/2007 21:06

Cadmum - she is an asthmatic- I wonder if that is relevant?

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Heated · 09/10/2007 22:28

My friend sent me this about the alarms - hope it's of some use. Her son's is made by or called Malem which she got from ERIC.

There are two types:

a bedside alarm with a sensor pad that is placed under the bottom sheet, and connected to a control box placed by your bedside
a personal or mini alarm with a sensor worn inside a slim pad or in Y-fronts by men. It is connected to a control box pinned to your night clothes.
Alarms are available with sound, flashing lights and vibrating signals. Most cost between £30 and £65, but they can often be borrowed from local enuresis clinics.

Advice on children's bedwetting is available from ERIC - the Enuresis Resource and Information Centre - telephone 0117 960 3060.

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Katymac · 09/10/2007 22:33

Thanks everyso much for that

I have looked on the ERIC website

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Cadmum · 10/10/2007 12:52

I am not sure about the asthma... But I suppose that anything that prevents a child from sleeping deeply (including fear/worry) could be a consideration. the ENT that my SIL saw was convinced that it is better to look for physical reasons before psychological ones and in the case of our niece it was all down to her adenoids. Incidentally, our only bedwetter is DS2 and he has terrible sleep apnea and ought to have his tonsils and adenoids out as well...

I am so pleased that your daughter is more settled at school. Hopefully, she will be able to leave the bullying in her past.

Cadmum · 10/10/2007 12:53

Please forgive my typos. I have DD2 in my lap and she likes to 'help'. So it is a game of type and delete!

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Katymac · 10/10/2007 19:37

Hmm - I don't know - I do worry that she was dry for so long then started wetting - aren't children hard work

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Lucifera · 12/10/2007 11:48

I wet the bed quite often until I was 14 (am in my 50s now). I think my parents handled it really well, it was distressing and embarrassing for me and they never made it worse by blaming or scolding me, although of course they were concerned. I've no idea why it happened, but I remember how fantastic I felt when I realised it had finally stopped. My mother took me to a clinic, but realised after a while that it made me upset so that was abandoned. Of course there must be lots of causes of bedwetting and probably now many ways in which children can be helped to stop - and I can quite understand what a huge nuisance it is for parents and carers - but I would have given anything to stop, I just had no control over it.

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Katymac · 13/10/2007 14:46

Only just seen this

Thanks - I know DD hates it

I just can't fix it

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