Fallen out with daughter in law- not seen my granddaughter

[g6zarkea6m652]

♿️ Help please.

My son has this tumultuous relationship with his partner. They has two children. I had a good relationship with his partner however whenever they fall out she curses every member of his family and I mean using degrading language.

I have overlooked it for more than 3 years however in May she cursed me out and referred to me as a "f-in spastic", and that she hopes I die".

She was pregnant at the time and I've decided to blocked her. She had the baby in August and I have not seen my grandchild.

I would like to see my grandchildren however she told my son that he was not allowed to bring the children to see me.

What should I do? I love my grandchildren

Your only way to have a relationship now with your children is through your son. Their mother can’t stop him bringing the children to you when he has them.

Sorry @g6zarkea6m652 I don't really have any advice for you but I can only imagine how difficult the situation you are in is.
Personally I'd suck it up, apologise and keep my mouth shut to see my grandchild.
You DIL sounds like a nasty piece of work

@dewisant2020 Personally I'd suck it up, apologise and keep my mouth shut to see my grandchild

What should op be apologising for? Being called a fucking spastic?

@g6zarkea6m652 tell your son to sort it out and bring your grandchildren to see you. By putting up with her vileness he’s as bad as she is. He’s saying that it’s ok to call you such vile names.

I would do everything through your son. Sadly, if you still can’t see them, I think you’ll need to live with that.
As far as I know, grandparents don’t have any rights in law to see their grandchildren.

How do you know she ‘cursed’ you?

Does your son have weekends etc when he looks after his children? He is allowed to bring them to see you during his contact time.

Obviously if he listens to her rather than you, or does not have contact time or does not want to bring them to you, there’s nothing you can do.

She sent me WhatsApp messages following an arguments with my son. She blames me every time they disagree. It’s the way he was “dragged up”!your f- in spastic mum, need to speak to your son.? I hope you both die etc.