What makes you a good father?

[jay120]

So me and my husband had a conversation and I asked him 2 things what make him a good father? He only had 1 answer and that was he buys milk & nappies for them he calls that (providing)

What makes a good father? Because I honestly think my husband could do a lot more but everytime I say that he says he is a good father
He only had 1 thing to mention when I asked him for 2. Even as a husband he could do more but he thinks he's the best dad and husband and i just don't know what to do anymore
Nothing I say goes through his head he don't like it when I tell him the true facts about him self
He calls me the annoying wife.

How long are you prepared to accept being treated with such contempt, OP? If you ditch the loser he will have to parent his kid 50% of the time, and you won’t have to listen to him whining about it. Win win!

My OH was a good Dad - he died this year.

When they were little he would get up to them when they woke, bring them to me to breastfeed and then change them.

And, at the other end of the spectrum, he quietly and calmly organised the morning after pill (he was a doctor) for one of our teenage DDs who had slipped up!

Of course he was not perfect, and I tended to be the one who dealt with all the emotional stuff around little girls; but he pulled his weight in his own way.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

its so hard when others think you have a perfect life which they know nothing about. They see a small part of ur life or even a few hours and think you have it all no I don’t mean that, I mean I don’t like the congratulating men for doing what women have been doing for generations ie. parenting.

Definitely I know what you mean now

@DarkmilkAddict

Agree with loving their mother. Fathers role model the way their sons will treat women (and how their daughters expect to be treated)

Love and trust is the main thing in a relationship without that it's impossible x

@RainbowMum11

My XH is a really good dad - DD7's needs have always been his priority, especially after he left me. He loves to spend time with her and has always pushed for 50/50 care.

So good to hear that am really happy for them may they always have a good role model to a father

I think being a really good dad means

1. ensure your children’s practical, emotional and financial needs are met. Taking responsibility for them and proactively ensuring their wellbeing in everything from clothes to school places.
2. supporting their mum as a parent and working with them to parent your children (even if not together).

My husband is a good father because he tries to take an interest in DDs interests, spends a lot of time with her, and shows up when she needs him. I don't think money has a lot to do with it, only as part of keeping her clothed, fed and happy.