Convince me to have another baby

[MamaLKB]

I have one, 11 month old.

Convince me to have another... soon. 🤣

Can't help you, I have a 9 month old and I'm only having one.

Why?

You shouldn't need convincing... You either want one or you don't

Ha, because I want to hear everyone else's reasons for having another one!

My husband is MEGA keen 🤣

@mylittlesandwich

Can't help you, I have a 9 month old and I'm only having one.

Really? How come?

No one can convince you, you either want one or you don't. What's right for one person isn't right for another.

If you need convincing you shouldn't do it

I've only got one and it's staying that way

Your 11 month old will have a sibling to grow up with close in age! You will get through the sleepless nights, nappies etc quicker if you have a closer age gap 😊

However I have a 3 month old and she is definitely my only one! Absolutely adore her but no more for me.

Being pregnant sucked. So badly. PND also sucked pretty heavily. One and done for me.

@chocolate26

Your 11 month old will have a sibling to grow up with close in age! You will get through the sleepless nights, nappies etc quicker if you have a closer age gap 😊

However I have a 3 month old and she is definitely my only one! Absolutely adore her but no more for me.

Thank you for your reply!

Keen to get though the sleepless nights quicker... and nappies. Like the small age gap too!

@mylittlesandwich

Being pregnant sucked. So badly. PND also sucked pretty heavily. One and done for me.

Why did it suck for you? Sorry to hear that

I was quite lucky with my pregnancy. I was dancing in heels at 9 months and didn't feel pregnant - apart from the bump at the end.

@netstaller

No one can convince you, you either want one or you don't. What's right for one person isn't right for another.

True... but I love people's opinions! Hence my question

I had PGP. By the time I was taken in for my c-section (due to a 10lb 10oz baby) I was in a wheelchair, I couldn't walk or drive. I was housebound for the last part of my pregnancy. I started walking with crutches around 4 months.

@MamaLKB

Keen to get though the sleepless nights quicker... and nappies. Like the small age gap too!

Yes, this is what I was going to say. Not even sleepless nights but early mornings. Have a 6 year gap between mine so had a few easy years with ds from about 3 onward, then back to the baby years again was a huge shock. Dbaby is 1 now and sleeps through the night but is awake at 6am every morning, which is really tiring after a while and in wonder when I'll ever get a lie in again.

Nobody here can have an opinion on this really!

Hell no!!!...sorry, I mean yes have another one but nothing prepared me for 12-24 months....2/3 yr age gap is still small just not tiny.

@mylittlesandwich

I had PGP. By the time I was taken in for my c-section (due to a 10lb 10oz baby) I was in a wheelchair, I couldn't walk or drive. I was housebound for the last part of my pregnancy. I started walking with crutches around 4 months.

Sorry to hear that - that's awful. Hope you're ok now?

@Lazysundayafternoons that's great to know. Would you change the gap if you could go back?

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

Hell no!!!...sorry, I mean yes have another one but nothing prepared me for 12-24 months....2/3 yr age gap is still small just not tiny.

As in the age 12-24 months? Hard work?

We’ve a 4 year age gap, not out of choice. I wanted them close together, but abdominal smears and lletz put paid to that. Then it took us a year to have DD.
But I wouldn’t change it for the world, admittedly DD (a year) annoys my DS at times but the look she gives him just melts my heart.
For me they come into their own when they have a sibling. My DSS was 12 when my DS came a long and we saw a side of him we’d never ever seen before and that was amazing.

"My husband is MEGA keen"

Well good for him, shame men can't gestate and birth babies!

I've just had DC2 (3 days old 😍) and DC1 is 3.5 years old. I'm so glad we have an age gap over 3 years, because we get funded hours at nursery, so financially we can afford to keep DC1 in nursery while I'm on maternity leave, which I'm already very grateful for! It's good for DC1 to continue his routine and for me and DH to have some time just us and baby. Another benefit of the age gap (as opposed to a smaller one) is that DC1 is old enough to be reasonably independent (potty trained etc), understands a lot and is thankfully very pleased with his baby sister and keep to "help"!

So it might not be what your husband wants us to tell you. But I would say wait a bit longer until you're ready and don't push yourself for a small age gap, an age gap of 3+ years is great (so far - it's very early days for me )

Also my first pregnancy was a dream but my 2nd was shite. Be prepared for them to be so different. My first sleep 11 hours a night from 8 weeks, my 2nd is 12 months and has never slept through!
I had so many issues that made my pregnancy high risk 2nd time around, and to
Too it all off my placenta was fully retained which was a joyful experience 🤣🤣🤣

So just prepare yourself that your 2nd might be different!!

Do it!
Will be super tough - but- my step children are only 1 year apart in age and they are so much easier to occupy and really spend a huge amount of time together (lots of fighting too). If you can I think it will pay and be easier as they get a bit older x

When my son was about a year I wanted to start trying. Didn't actually start until he 18 months then it took 6 months. By the time I got pregnant I was really happy that he was the age he was. When I was going to throw up I could just leave him knowing he would be fine. And we potty trained whilst pregnant and I honestly couldn't imagine him being in nappies now especially all the times I'm stuck under a sleeping baby. So I think a bit of a bigger gap is better personally. He's also absolutely obsessed with her and not jealous at all. He was more clingy when he was younger so may have found it harder.