Supervised visits ??

[lucyolivia99]

Hi
I am seeking some advice from other people

I stopped my ex from seeing our 2 year old son 3 months ago after numerous situations and him walking in and out a lot. Me and my son had just moved into our first property and he refused to help and explained how he still felt horrendous about having a child and that he didn't want to be with me any longer. Bear in mind I have our up with his shit back and forth since I fell pregnant, he tried to force me to abort I said no so he removed himself from the picture and then came back , then left, then came back etc. I always tried to build a relationship for them but it always got thrown in my face, he was either out with friends drinking or doing drugs, and recently this has been more apparent. Bear in mind he's only ever had my son on his own a handful of times, it's mostly been me there aswell and my ex only showing me attention

After breaking it off 3 months ago I allowed him to take my son for a full day to see how he got on, he came home wide awake because he had slept all day , starving hungry and a full nappy. I was not happy.

He has reached out to me yesterday asking for 'mediation of some sort' becuase he want to be part of my sons life.
I do not trust him what so ever, he is an unpredictable man. I am willing to offer supervised visits to parks etc while I'm present until my son is old enough to make his own decisions.. is this reasonable?

My question is can he take me to court or will I be forced to do mediation as this is not what I want. I do not feel comfortable with him having him without me there as he has shown no commitment. He screwed up one too many times and now he knows this is serious and he's blown it he has reached out and is trying to ruin things.

You are not being unreasonable at all, but he can still take you to court. It will then be up to you to prove he isn't fit to have unsupervised contact.

Make sure you document everything otherwise it will just end up with your word against his.

Set up an hour or two once a week at a set time and place, preferably somewhere public. If he keeps missing it stop the contact, if he keeps it up increase it.

He is probably just going to let your son down time and time again, which is really frustrating and damaging for your child. Unfortunately parents have to be shown many times to be incapable of looking after a child before you can do anything about it.

Sorry but yes he can take you to court, yes they can insist on mediation. The court can order supervised visits at a contact centre until they are satisfied he is responsible to care for his dc alone. But ultimately unless there's something specific that makes him a risk he will get unsupervised contact so far better to try to amicably sort out contact. Mediation really might help