Calling child a 'dog'.

[sarah8484]

My ex partner just called our child a dog. My son and I went to ex p's house and my son (9) was right by me the whole time, basically my shadow. When i left to go to the bathroom my son went to play in the garden, my ex then proceeded to ask, what's wrong with your little dog. I said don't call him that! Who calls their child a dog? And he responded well that what he is, he's acting like one. I just went off at him and said that is so degrading calling your child a dog. (Thankfully ds didnt hear any of this) I called my son and we left. He think's (ex dp) that it was just a description of his behaviour but I don't think it's acceptable to call your child a dog. Just want people's opinions on if I over reacted?

You over reacted...

I don’t think you overreacted. I wouldn’t be happy if some referred to my child as ‘your little dog’.

I wouldn't like it. I assume your DS doesn't have a great relationship with your exP seeing as he felt the need to stick yo your side. Definitely not a situation where it would be reasonable to say that in jest.

I don't think you overreacted. It does sound like he's looking for a fight saying 'what is wrong with your little dog.' that would make me see red. Everything about it. 'wrong' and 'your' as well as dog.

I don't think you over reacted at all as a mother I wouldn't have anyone call my child a dog weather it's his father or not that's a horrible thing to say am so glad you're ds didn't hear that,

@FTMF30 No, they don't have a great relationship. My son would rather not see his dad if he had the choice, they have a very broken relationship and im trying really hard to help them fix it by taking ds to his but then he makes a comment like that and I wonder why I bother.

why do you bother.
if the child does not want to go, and the father is so off-hand, just leave it.
they'll both probably be relieved.
accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative.
and don't mess with mr in-between. as the song says.

@alexdgr8 we have 2 children together and his relationship with our other children is a good one. Our children have very different personalities, and my ex p favours our younger child and for some reason some to get annoyed by our eldest for anything and everything so find it difficult for ex dp to have a relationship with one child and not the other. It's a tough situation

I understand you wanting to keep your child's father in his life but I honestly wouldn't force it. Your DS is old enough to pick up on the fact his dad probably not not give a shit about seeing him and that can be more damaging than having an absent father. Especially one who would refer to him as a dog (even if he didn't hear it).

Yabu to attempt such a facilitation.. Better your ds comes to terms quickly his df is a useless waste of space than dragging it out..