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Calling all 2nd (and 3rd, and 4th) time mums!

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phlossie · 06/10/2007 19:48

I've just had my 2nd and can't believe how different she is from her brother! Just for fun, I was wondering what about your 2nd babies really surprised you? What had you forgotten (exploding yellow poos!) and what did you not expect (loads of black hair - my 1st was bald until 13 months!)...

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freakypenguin · 06/10/2007 19:52

congrats phlossie!

haven't had my 2nd yet (due Feb) but am looking forward to it. am sure i have forgotten loads!

thomcat · 06/10/2007 19:57

I just had my 3rd and my 2nd was only 20 months ago but I forgot just how absolutely amazingly out of this world it is and how everything in the world is tinged with gold and just that bit better now you have a newborn in your life again. How your home looks better, how you fall in love with your other children even more all over again. How kind people are and genreous on many levels. How much you appreciate and love your partner / husband.

I didn't expect to feel this good and be this happy.

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phlossie · 06/10/2007 20:08

I'm with you on all of that - especially falling in love with other children (mine's 20 months too)! Not even a sign of baby blues...

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thomcat · 06/10/2007 20:12

Great isn't it

ibroughtcake · 06/10/2007 20:16

What's different

He sleeps so much better, I think DD was a bad sleeper and I just didn't realise
He has hair, DD had none

What had I forgotten

-That undescribeable feeling you get when they stare you in the eye and then crack that first smile, it makes my heart break

-The smell of their heads

Can you tell DS is only 7 weeks old

jozoe · 06/10/2007 20:18

well done phlossie
it just gets better my 2nd is now 9 months and is a little gem . Feeds better , sleeps better (from 3 months all through ). 1st didn't sleep till 2 !!??
good in bath ,good in car . Goes down for 2 hours every morning . Don't know I'm born with this one . Just enjoy every min cause it goes so far . Good luck xx

orangehead · 06/10/2007 20:29

my 2 are very different, 1st had a ton of spikey black hair, 2nd very very fine blonde hair but hardly any. My 1st was such an easy baby, hardly cried and slept through night at 2 weeks but I had bad pnd the 2nd really hard baby cried all the time hardly slept till he was nearly two but I didnt even get slight baby blues . Still now my eldest is very sensible, easy child my 2nd is very loving but also very energentic, mischevious and seems to break everything he touches. My eldest is very shy but the youngest just talks to anyone. Despite only having 16 month age gap when I had 2nd had forgotten how to hold new born felt as if I would break him. I was also dreading bf 2nd time round as it was really difficult the first time and really didnt want to go through all that again but it was so easy the 2nd time. Congrats btw

Amethyst8 · 06/10/2007 20:34

Had too much of an age gap between mine I think. I forgot it all. Think she was a lot harder though. DS slept through the night at 6 days old and continued to do so. DD didnt until nearly 10 months old. Couldn't put her down either. Carried her solidly for 6 months. She would fall asleep at night and wake up immediately that you put her in her moses basket. I was shell shocked. DS had 3 hour nap every day from a couple of weeks old, DD didnt nap during the day until again 10 months old. They could not have been more different. She still likes to be with me all the time and DS has always been really independent and liking to play by himself. Glad I did not have her first or I may not have had another.

Amethyst8 · 06/10/2007 20:36

They looked identical as babies though. I had CS for both and when they held DD up for me to see it was like I had twins just 3 years apart.

kindersurprise · 06/10/2007 21:28

Congratulations phlossie.

My two are just over 2 years apart and I could not get over how big my DD (firstborn) was in comparison to her tiny little brother. She was always my little one and now she seemed so huge.

DD had loads of black hair, DS hardly any hair, very fair. DD slept well and slept through the níght from around 15weeks, DS took ages to sleep through the night.

I did not expect to find it so difficult with 2 DCs, which was made worse by the fact that I suffered from PND after the birth of DS.

Smithagain · 06/10/2007 21:29

I just could not believe how different two babies could be. They are so completely unlike in personality, and it showed from the very first moment. Principally, DD2 gazed at me appreciatively, fed well and slept a lot - in a moses basket. Whereas DD1 was the screaming banshee baby from hades and did none of the above. (I love her to pieces, but oh! those early days!)

One loves to eat, the other is miss picky extraordinaire. One is chubby, the other is thin. One is mellow and laid back, the other is high maintenance and NEVER stops bending my ear. One is scared of all sorts of things, the other has only had one bad dream in her life.

It never ceases to amaze me how two people can mix up their genes and end up with two such totally different results!!

mummydoc · 06/10/2007 21:31

first was 5 weeks early weighed 4 lbs absolute tiny little dot, bald until 18 months , dd2 1 week late, 9 lbs mass of hair, both utterly different characters ( maybe due to me being more relaxed with second) they continue to amaze me how different they are...( secretly think dd1 was swopped at birth )

Louana · 06/10/2007 21:36

have a 3 yr gap between dd 4 &ds 1. i have less one on one time with ds, but dd more than makes up for this. she mothers him all the time, now have to work on controlling this as she has started telling him off in exactly the same tone of voice as we use, v. scary

PregnantGrrrl · 08/10/2007 14:38

i'm expecting DS2 soon, so don't know yet. BUT, have been looking at newborn pictures of DS1 and can't believe how fragile and tiny he looks...can't wait to hold that again!

Niecie · 08/10/2007 14:55

I forgot how light they are when they are newborn compared to a toddler - nearly sent DS2 flying over my shoulder a few times.

Also forgot that their heads are floppy for a couple of days and how soft their heads are. And I forgot how quickly they put on weight and straighten out and change from new borns to babies.

I was surprised that they had different personalities from day one. DS1 had a cry that sounded like he was begging and pleading for a feed. DS2 had a cry that demanded a feed, or else.

Also that they had completely different way of feeding. DS1 would feed for hours day and night but DS2 was much more efficient and would feed for 20 minutes then sleep - it was a revelation to me that babies could actually be something like the books said they would be. Mind you DS2 was 2.5lbs heavier so that was a surprise and might have something to do with the feeding - DS1 obviously needed it more.

Congratulations on the birth of your new baby phlossie

BOOquets · 08/10/2007 17:31

Size: 2nd one was 2lbs heavier and it did not show on me at all.
He also had quite a stalky neck (for want of a better description) and DH mourned the lack of 'neck cheese' that he had enjoyed wiping from under DD's chin as a baby!

spookykitty · 08/10/2007 17:37

Second one was 3lbs heavier and I had to wait an extra 4 weeks to meet her.

She was a boob fiend from the word go and was always hungry and didn't sleep like the first one.

Both completely different.

bossybritches · 08/10/2007 18:22

My biggest shock was thinking (smugly & mistakenly)that DD2 would be a bit like DD1 & therefore all the little tricks I'd learnt I could put into use with her to sace me some angst......... WRONG!!!!!

Chalk & Cheese...... & all I can say is if I'd had DD2 first she'd have been an only child

But they are now 12 & 10 I love 'em to bits, & really enjoy their differences (mostly)

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