Toddler in new bedroom ADVICE NEEDED

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So my little girl is 2 and has been sleeping in our room up until 2 weeks ago, she now in her own room and absoulutly HATES it. She used to sleep 7-7 in her cot in our room and now bedtime is a nightmare she keep saying shes scared and i need to stay in her room until she falls asleep and even then she wakes up a few hours later. I have 3 other kids to me staying in her room until shes sleeping isnt practical. We have a gate on her door so she cant keep coming up and down the stairs. I need advice. Do i just leave her to scream and she'll eventually give in? Tips please!!

How old are the others? I think you're going to have to do some kind of gradual retreat if you can. Have you got a partner?

Night light or projector?

Night light projector- gentle retreat and then eventually just keep returning her to her bed if she’s wailing at the gate, don’t overly engage. Few nights of hell im sure but focus on the end goal

My other kids are 8, 10 and 12. We have a night light in the room it doesnt make any difference😔 lots of people have told me to just leave her to scream and go up every so often and keep putting her back in bed but her screaming is breaking my heart, i cant leave her for any longer than 10 minutes. Ive never had to do this before, my other kids were in their own room from around 6 months to 1 year old

10mins max in fine but keep going back putting her in bed, rub her back say a phrase like “night night” and walk back out- don’t linger. She knows then that mummy is there, she will return but that this is her bedroom

@OnlyFoolsnMothers thanks for the advice i really appreciate it, i will give it a try

My toddker had a sleep regression at 2.5. We used contrived crying. Leave to cry for 1 min, go on and tell her to get in bed, then leave fir 2 mins repeat, leave for 3 mins and so on. The first night was hell, much better the next night and after a week significant improvements. Now we are back to sleeping for 12 hours. If you want it to work tho, you have to be string. Befire anyone comments how cruel I am. Don't be daft, a happy unstressed parent is much better on a child's mental health than a tired stressed one!

Does she nap during the day? Will she nap in there?

Otherwise would she go to sleep on your bed on her own and then you lift her into her cot when you go to bed for a while? Then when she is used to waking up in the room you could introduce going to sleep in the room.