Can some long term damage happen to baby if he choked on water but coughed it out.

[sarahhoping]

I was giving my 7 month old baby water with a dropper . he was insistent on handling the little water bowl . so i carefully kept it near his lips. he gulped a little of it i think and it ended in his windpipe or something because he started coughing for a few seconds but then went normal again.
he's ok now, nothing happened to him fortunately, but i am wondering even if some residual water had went into his windpipe or lungs, how could it hurt him long term ??
or am I being paranoid about this

Your husband doesn’t babysit...he’s looking after his own child!

How will he cope when he’s eating mud and stones in the garden. Or climbing on the furniture, falling down steps, tripping over etc?

Your husband needs help. Your baby didn't choke, I'm not sure it's even possible to choke on water, choking means something is lodged in your throat. Coughing and gagging are completely normal for babies. Giving a 7 month old a drink from a dropper is bizarre.

@welshweasel my dear god ! i just realized that word is only for when caring for someone elses child.
and my hubby didnt realize it either. I think he just used that word in a video conference with 60 other ppl when one of them jokingly said how do u help ur wife .

A 1 ml dropper is not going to meet your baby's needs. You need to allow them to experience drinking. You can get cups that don't allow water out unless it is sipped, rather than free flowing ones, if that reassures you.

Your baby gagging, spluttering, etc., is an excellent sign that they are able to protect themselves. That is their reflex. If he couldn't protect himself, then he'd let the water flow down his windpipe and choke on it.

Get a sippy cup for your child. He should be learning to drink by himself.

Tell your husband to behave better - getting angry as you mention isn’t ok.
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Your husband needs some help. A cough and splutter is fine and part of the learning process - I've probably coughed on a drink in the last week and I'm heading towards 40. A grown man getting angry because he is "scared" of a perfectly normal physiological reaction is disproportionate.

Your husband sounds like a dangerous nut-job.

Your baby coughed.

Your husband got angry (presumably with you).

I'm concerned about the environment in which you and your baby live, it doesn't sound safe living with a man like that.

@sallyshirt my FIL and MIL also stay with us, and he's not really a "dangerous" man . hehe thats extreme word, but i would say he's very insecure and paranoid about the child, and wants nothing bad to happen to him in slightest.

Please contact the health visitor or children's centres to see if you and your husband can access a weaning course - they're doing same online now I believe.

Feeding your baby with a 1ml dropper is bonkers (please know i mean that in a warm and supportive way and not aggressively, though I'm not sure it will read like that!) and will do no good for your babys development. How does your baby take milk? Either breast or bottle will flow far quicker than by the dropper!

Coughing and gagging is good in terms of weaning - it means they can get food from the back of their mouth forward if they need to. They need to learn to control this skill to manage their eating and drinking as they get older. What will happen when you introduce lumpy textures or finger foods - there will definately be some coughing then for the reason above.

I understand parental anxiety and wanting to keep baby safe - its an important instinct but shouldn't impact on baby developing and experiencing normal things.

I think your DH needs to go on a baby weaning course or class. You're not helping your baby by suppressing development.

As they get older they will encounter more dangerous situations when they can run around and put things in their mouth. He needs to be able to stay calm.

What you've described is worrying behaviour and not healthy.

OP, your DH is damagingly anxious. He needs advice or counselling. Your baby is trying to reach his developmental milestones. Your DH’s irrational response will hold your baby’s progress back.

Let your wee lad drink from cups. He’s telling you he wants to learn.

@sarahhoping
Dont take this the wrong way but I've noticed you have started a lot of threads on the parenting board. Every couple of weeks you start a post worrying that you have accidentally hurt your baby or that there is something wrong with his development. I thought you very being very anxious, but from this post the anxiety seems to be from your dh.

His sippy cup is actually a part of toys he does play with, and even puts it in mouth , but we don't put water in it
right now baby does breastfeed but also has pureed foods and fruits two times a day atleast
we give him water also but with a dropper . he usually drinks around 15- 20 ml in one sitting
and no I am not offended by anyone of your suggestions. Infact i think all the moms on this forum are really a blessing for first time parents like me and hubby
And yes will talk to husband to get anxiety classes or something :)

Sounds like you and he are both horribly anxious. That needs dealing with. As does his anger.

OP are you getting any chance to mix with other parents? I know it is hard with Covid but if there are any opportunities for mixing it might help normalize things like weaning.

Surely your baby coughs when eating too, or at least did at the beginning?
My boy coughed and gagged often when learning to eat and drink from 6 months of age. So far he has never choked (which is completely different; they make no noise, go wide eyed and turn blue).
I would recommend an NCT First Aid Class for you both to learn what choking actually is and how you would deal with it.
I'd highly recommend a munchkin cup for drinking, which my BF DS took to really well. If he takes a big, messy slurp he will sometimes cough; this is normal

It's incredibly rare to choke. If not almost impossible to choke from drinking water

We cough to stop it going into our lungs. Coughing is a good thing!!!!!! We shouldn't ever be afraid of a cough. I can't see how he could 'choke' on water. It doesn't really work that way. Sometimes it can go towards our lungs. Which is why we choke. Splitter. Cough. But that's a good thing!!!!!! To choke on food is different. That is an object that can get stuck. That's different

There is way to much anxiety here. You can't feed a child with a 1ml dropper. That's almost insane. But in a nice way.

Please please start using water in either a soppy cup. Some 7 month olds can drink from the baby cups.

A 1ml dropper though? He can't be getting enough fluid surely?!?

This is a really really worrying thread. You need to seek help from a professional before your child develops developmental problems. Please ask for some help

Op you and your husband need to speak to your health visitor.
Have a look at some research re the difference between choking and gagging.
If your babies lips went blue and they stopped making any noise, that is choking!
Also have a look at baby led weaning. This will open your and your husbands eyes of what babies can do! From 6 months (if your baby is able to sit unaided) they can feed themselves. (A lot of people still do traditional weaning, me personally I done a bit of both, purées and finger food) 1 mil from a pippet isn't going to teach your child to eat and drink properly.
Coughing is a reflex to prevent objects going into the lungs.